I was having a conversation with a friend about the alleged hostility towards bisexuals and transgender within the LGBT community. Now alleged is probably unfair because their definitely is a negative stigma towards bisexuals and transgender within the LGBT community however I don't have the statistics on what % and whether it's increasing, personally I am of the opinion it's becoming less common but you may very well disagree. For those unaware what I am talking about I shall try and explain; three of the most common comments towards bisexuals are:
A.I won't date a bisexual because they're more likely to cheat!
B.They're really just gay and just using bisexuality as a stepping stone!
C. Bisexuals only want to fuck the same gender and have relationships with the opposite sex
I'll try and go through each one and give my personal opinion:
A - I often see this said on gay social media and I honestly believe it is unfair. Yes some bisexual people cheat, my own personal experience has shown a lot of married bisexuals willing to cheat but that's just personal anecdotes not fact. I don't believe there is a statistic highlighting infidelity high in bisexuals to warrant this comment. in fact I think this stigma is more fuelled by blinked anecdotal evidence.
B - Again an unfair comment. Yes I know a lot of people who were coming out gay used bisexual as a stepping stone especially during times when homosexuality was less accepted. Certainly when I was a teenager it was a popular tactic but I don't really think it's that common now and said comments are often (imo) said by the older generation.
C. Now unfortunately this stigma was caused by a lot of bisexuals themselves especially online where you would often see 'bisexual man looking for fun with men, relationship with woman'. That said if that's what they want then get over it, not every bisexual thinks like that and even if they do it's their preference not yours!
Regarding transgender that's more complex. I can understand why some feel T shouldn't be attached to LGB because transgender is more gender issues than sexuality but it is what it is and I welcome transgender. Now I have been accused of being transphobic because of my preferences. I am a gay man sexually attracted to men and especially the masculine qualities and the male form. I politely declined the sexual advances from a post op MTF and pre op FTM. They accused me of transphobia because I wasn't attracted to them which annoyed me slightly because some post op FTM are absolutely stunning and I totally would date them because they possess the qualities I find attractive (its very unlikely they would find me attractive however) Now I know transphobia does exist and is probably unfortunately common but I do worry some are just mistaken preferences...
Now I suspect this thread will be closed before a discussion even begins but it was on my mind and perhaps even just one person found it interesting and informative