Originally Posted by
codsafish
I have a friend I've known since early high-school. He is Muslim, his family is pretty strict with him...always has been. On the outside though when he isn't around his family, he is like a typical "western" guy. But around his family, he is just someone completely different. He is really natural and gets along with everyone, has same hobbies n stuff as everyone else, but again...his family just have this effect on him when they are around, like they control every-single-possible-thing he does.
So he has kept his virgin status for marriage (nothing wrong with that) but what has annoyed me is that, his family has just picked a wife for him. She is actually related to him in some way, either 1st or 2nd cousin I am not 100% sure, it's either one though. And this is happening in a wealthy-high-end suburb mind you. This isn't happening in some scum neighborhood in some trashy town. This is happening in a wealthy area. His family is pretty wealthy, business owners etc.
Now on the front side of this, he seems happy. All he can talk about how is he can't wait till he has sex. I am just saying "oh yeh cool" because what I am really thinking would probably ruin our friendship. It's like....you're about to marry your cousin and you're not allowed to divorce (unless it's done in sharia-law) and you have to have kids. Your life has been pretty much organized by your parents, you've had no choice...and you're just accepting it as done and you have no other choice...so all you can do is at least be happy you'll be able to have sex?
I just feel sorry for the guy and whoever this girl is. I bet she has been groomed to be a wife or something because any girl wouldn't just randomly be like "sup yo, gona marry this cus because I 100% want to and love him, even though I don't actually know him more than I know some random guy on the street"
It's just weird for me. I never really liked his family to begin with (by how they treat him and make him do things) but now this just makes me completely dislike them. I think I just need to get away from this situation before I say anything I regret.