You're attempting to paint a picture of black and white where there are at least fifty shades of gray.
Daycare?
Take turns?
Telecommuting?
Once children go to school, the time investment goes down for parents drastically.
Oh, then feel free to enlighten us.
Not after the marriage terminates. Frankly, the stay-at-home party is someone else's problem at that point.
But why should expenses related to children have anything to do with a marriage related fee? Marriage is one thing, having children together is entirely another. You can be married without children or not be married and still have children. Why should one affect the other?
Shouldn't that be a separate matter?
I think it shouldn't exist for two people that both have a steady income enough to keep them on their feet, but if the one parent is struggling then that's when alimony should stay in affect. Though I have no clue if they already do this, but if they don't, they should.
Last edited by NatePsy; 2012-12-28 at 03:19 PM.
It's not expenses related to children. It's if a couple decides that one of them should puts their career on hold to take care of children, then both parents should pay for the consequences of that decision - the reduced earning of one parent due to having a career hiatus. Alimony is intended to compensate that spouse for the loss.
He's referring to my term "indefinite," which I wasn't using to say "forever." I was saying indefinite because the situation would be different from couple to couple, and we shouldn't have 1 specific term of alimony for all situations. You could, for example, have alimony payments last until the spouse receiving alimony has a job that pays past a certain threshold.
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!
While it does happen, its not nearly as often for men, even accounting for the disparity of more women being stay at home moms, and more men being the breadwinners. The courts and legal system are biased for women on a lot of these things, and its a lot harder for a man to get what he deserves in a few cases (female on male rape prosecutions, child custody/child support, alimony, and probably some others I don't remember).
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!