It depends on the relationship. If my wife came to me and told me she was bisexual, and she wanted to have sex with another woman, barring a huge number of questions I would ask pursuant to fantasies about having threesomes, I would be ok with that. If she came to me after the fact and told me she was bisexual and had previously had sex with another woman during our relationship, I would feel deeply betrayed and upset, because she didn't feel enough trust to ask me about it. If she is attracted to other women and wants to have sex with them, I don't really feel threatened by that. The critical part of cheating is the emotional betrayal and the lack of trust it implies. I would be upset about that regardless of gender.
In short, I would be fine with my wife having sex with other women, but not cheating on me with them.
i would be more pissed about turning my girlfriend into a lesbian...
hold that thought.. my bi-sexual ex actually got together with a trans girl after me.. :O and i just though about this now... thanks alot, this thread just ruined my confidence...
I wouldn't be nearly as angry as I would be if it were with a man. Double standard, I know, but it's hot to think about and I can't stay mad when I'm this turned on.
I don't mind my significant other having sex with someone of the same gender IF they ask me about it first. We're pretty open like that. Heck, I'd even say yes if they asked me to join in!
If my SO did it behind my back however, yes that is most definitely cheating.
It doesn't matter what gender you are or which gender you do it with, if you do it without your spouses approval or knowledge, IT IS CHEATING.
You mean people are judgemental?? Your post judged me! Seriously, we're all judgemental about certain topics. Don't be surprised by it.
I'm judgemental about "open" relationships, because most of the time it's about one partner holding onto the other irrespective of the circumstances.
You've to remember the age group of the forums. Everyone thinks multiple partners is "sexy" at some point in their development. Also the types of relationships that people have are so brief and fuelled by self indulgence, that it's no wonder people think all their needs should be met. If they can't be met by one person, well they'll get them somewhere else.
I've actually been in that situation, it still sucks. I've had a GF cheat on me with a guy and a GF cheat on me with a woman. They both equally hurt.
It's a trust issue, plain and simple. You trusted them and they broke that trust.
Being gay, this topic is uttterly forign to me. That said, I am mentally compareing this to my bf hooking up with a woman. And honestly, I'd be pissed. Some of you need to grow up past the "hurrr hur, girl on girl is hot" and think about your priorites in a relationship.