I mean she's not trying to forge her own destiny, she's trying to change EVERYTHING from the ground up on her own selfish beliefs that she's let noone in on up until this point. Imagine if oh... i dunno.. she conversed and corresponded with her fellow horde leaders and even the alliance leaders on some level about the intelligence she supposedly has and whatnot. Rather than genociding night elves and her own people and the horde. I feel like maybe a strong independent woman would do that rather than trying to kill everyone. But maybe i'm wrong.
Anyone who idolizes her at this point is a sycophant.