Sexual Harassment from a different angle

[Deleted]

So obviously 'sexual harassment' is a hot topic and a lot of men are dismissing some claims (rightfully so in some cases) but I thought I would try a different angle. The best way perhaps to avoid sexual harassment accusations from women is to instead put yourself in a similar situation, for example think how you would feel if another man approached you and how you would feel. Would you be comfortable if a man held you and said "You're cute!" or "I like your hair, want to come to my hotel room for drinks?"

[Kakera]

Reporting for troll topic. You really should get a day job dude.

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[Katie N]

Would you be comfortable if a man held you and said "You're cute!"

That's just weird and not sexual harassment.

"I like your hair, want to come to my hotel room for drinks?"

That's definitely not sexual harassment.

[Fonduset]

i would go

"Thanks"
"Yeh i washed my hair this morning, thanks again"
"No i wont go to your hotel room, i barely know you and if you carry on asking me those questions, I will tell someone straight away" not wait 20 years for when it suits

[Nasuuna]

Reporting for troll topic. You really should get a day job dude.

its like 6pm in england

[Grimbold21]

The similar situation would be a man being approached in that fashion by a woman.

[Jonnusthegreat]

I really don't think touching someone should count as sexual harassment/assault, however at the same time, I'm sure there are women out there that deal with this 5x a day or more... so it's an interesting debate.

[Very Tired]

Women at my job are always telling me how big my muscles are. What sexual harassment! I don't make comments about their bodies to them!

[Independent voter]

Why does it have to be a man, why can't it be a hot girl?

[kasuke06]

So obviously 'sexual harassment' is a hot topic and a lot of men are dismissing some claims (rightfully so in some cases) but I thought I would try a different angle. The best way perhaps to avoid sexual harassment accusations from women is to instead put yourself in a similar situation, for example think how you would feel if another man approached you and how you would feel. Would you be comfortable if a man held you and said "You're cute!" or "I like your hair, want to come to my hotel room for drinks?"

I've been hit on by guys before. I take it as a compliment.

[Deleted]

"You're cute!" or "I like your hair, want to come to my hotel room for drinks?"

saying someone is cute is fine, its how people hook up, start chatting etc, but continuing to do it ifthe other person is not interested is when it becomes harrassment.

Asking someone to go back to your hotel room when you don't know them is just creepy.

[Deleted]

That's just weird and not sexual harassment.


That's definitely not sexual harassment.

Well sexual harassment itself is a complicated issue to pinpoint, the basic definition is

sexual harassment
noun
harassment (typically of a woman) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involving the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.

So asking somebody to your hotel room is a form of sexual advance

[Rustedsaint]

But this is his day job
honestly speaking Depending on the size/position/force of the guy/girl I’d either brush them off or accept the compliment/offer. I’ll be honest if sleeping with someone could make me a rich I’d be down for a lot things, yet I understand For a lot of people no means no and should not feel like they have to sleep with someone to be a star

[Deleted]

Women at my job are always telling me how big my muscles are. What sexual harassment! I don't make comments about their bodies to them!

I had this a lot from where i used to work, middle aged women always seem to be the ones making innappropiate comments at work.

[Katie N]

Well sexual harassment itself is a complicated issue to pinpoint, the basic definition is



So asking somebody to your hotel room is a form of sexual advance

So making a move on someone after flirting is sexual harassment according to you? xD

[Deleted]

saying someone is cute is fine, its how people hook up, start chatting etc, but continuing to do it ifthe other person is not interested is when it becomes harrassment.

Asking someone to go back to your hotel room when you don't know them is just creepy.

Well usually you say Hi before touching and saying You're cute

That said its all subjective to the individual, I have had guys throw their arms over me and kiss me. I didn't consider it sexual harassment but somebody else may

[Toogoodman]

Well sexual harassment itself is a complicated issue to pinpoint, the basic definition is



So asking somebody to your hotel room is a form of sexual advance

Harassment is excessive, asking someone to come to your hotel room once is not sexual harassment, no matter how creepy it is. However, once you start asking 3,4,5,6,7,8 times, that becomes harassment.

[Deleted]

So making a move on someone after flirting is sexual harassment according to you? xD

Yeah if said person didn't respond in kind, that would be unwanted sexual advances

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Harassment is excessive, asking someone to come to your hotel room once is not sexual harassment, no matter how creepy it is. However, once you start asking 3,4,5,6,7,8 times, that becomes harassment.

Harassment and Sexual Harassment are defined separately

[Katie N]

Yeah if said person didn't respond in kind, that would be unwanted sexual advances

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Harassment and Sexual Harassment are defined separately

No that is just being bad at flirting.

[Deleted]

Well usually you say Hi before touching and saying You're cute

That said its all subjective to the individual, I have had guys throw their arms over me and kiss me. I didn't consider it sexual harassment but somebody else may

I missed the part in your OP about touching, my bad. Touching someone that you don't know or don't know if they wan't to be touched based on socual cues is wrong, and i would class that as harrassment.