I know a guy who graduated from a top university that was looking for work in his field for nearly two years, this was during the economic recession though and he was older when he graduated. (32...was in the military before returning to school).
Economy is better now but finding a non-crappy job takes time, keep at it.
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@Jonnusthegreat
You're seriously telling me that you would leave the house for a 0 percent chance of being hit by a bus, but you'd stay home for a less than 1 percent chance of being hit by a bus?
Just wondering, do you ever leave the house?
My god, you would leave the house if you had a 1% chance of living? Scary! You would also leave the house if you had a 1 in 125 chance of dying? Still scary! That's like you wouldn't even care if 2.4 million Americans died by buses today, worth the risk!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relati...and_difference
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but seriously speaking, for thousands of years we didn't have all the things that make our lives easier and chores faster. women worked as hard if not harder than men. they just didn't get a salary for it.A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard.
The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog.
Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall.
In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing.
In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.
He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.
He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.
As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap, and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.
As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel.
She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked:
“What happened here today?’”
She again smiled and answered, “You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?”
“Yes,” was his incredulous reply.
She answered, ‘”Well, today I didn’t do it.”
Did you have to add "if not harder"? This topic is enough of a mess already without someone comparing apples and pears.
On topic: being unemployed sucks, both for the person in question and the partner (depending on the reason ofcourse), so I can see how long-term unemployment increases the chance of a divorce. But it was already pointed out that the average period of unemployment in the US is 27.7 weeks, a period that is far from long and shouldn't put a strain on your relationship unless you lie on the couch all day eating snacks out of your belly button.
yes i did have to add it. becasue in many cases, once the husband was home - their day was done, while wife had to continue working.
but that is not the point. the point is something I made several pages ago in this thread. its not the status of employment per se. its not being on the same page about it for both spouses.
So let's say I consider that a myth, but I don't consider household care non-work. What does that make me?
You are not gonna tell me that for the duration of human existence men came home from working, dropped everything and didn't lift a finger, for most of those 100.000 years? Might be strawmanning here, but this is based on assumptions about what household work is, it's such a broad term that encompasses so much.
i have no issues with only one person working, the issue comes when they have kids, and that low paying job just cant support all those bills
Based on the study of 51% of American Workers make less than $30,000/year - (http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2015-1...ess-30000-year) and that 71% of all American Workers make less than $50,000/year means that most households need both parents working in order to cover those bills.
That being said with more income also comes more bills -- Child care services, higher grocery bills, and clothing costs are just a few. A majority of Americans simply can't exist without dual incomes if they have children.
I'm not sure what this rant is about; I'll just assume you're trying to reframe the argument since you were clearly wrong. Cute but ineffective.
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So you were both using one another? Great.
Maybe try becoming a citizen based on your own merit instead of some sham marriage.