No, it is not necessary, because the context is obvious in the situation. Now, if the people are new in boxing, or if it is some special kind of sparring, then yes, they can talk in advance about the details. Same way, people before having sex better make it clear to each other (at least, at some point in their relationship) what they are okay with and what not. That's basically what consent is. You don't have to say every single time you want to make a motion whether the partner is okay with it. You do have the ability to revoke consent at any point though - similarly, in boxing sparring you have the ability to say, "Okay, that's it, we are ending it".
Not sure what's so confusing here...
Endus was talking about the situation of two people, with one offering tea to another. Endus' comparison is relevant. Yours is not.
This is just wildly off-base.
The standard has always been affirmative consent. Because if an accusation comes out, and the victim says they didn't consent, the accuser will be obliged to demonstrate how they were sure the victim was consenting. Affirmative consent policies don't actually change the legal requirements, in the vast majority of instances; they merely clarify what has always been the standard.
Because "no means no" seemed to require a strong refusal of consent was required, otherwise you HAD consent. That consent was presumed to exist. That was never the case, under the law; affirmative consent just better explains the actual legal requirements.
There is no "wide net". If you didn't have reason to think they were willing partners, you were raping them. That's what affirmative consent says.
From this one, "Consent to any sexual act or prior consensual sexual activity between or with any party does not necessarily constitute consent to any other sexual act."
Concurs with my point, every act must have consent.
And from UMN's link, again, "Consent to one form of sexual activity does not imply consent to other forms of sexual activity."Here's UMN's; https://policy.umn.edu/operations/sexualassault-appa
Chosen because they came up first on Google. Neither of those support your claim as to what "affirmative consent" entails; they make it clear that it can be words or actions, and that it must be present, and may be withdrawn at any point, and that lack of resistance as opposed to enthusiastic participation is equivalent to such withdrawal.
These laws, and the directions handed out, require every step gets consent. Not just at the beginning.
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I can somewhat agree with the first point, but that only applies to religious conservatives which are the ones concerned with sex, but that doesn't apply to the remaining conservatives and the second point doesn't make much sense given the little attention this bill recieved. I mean did you know that there was a feminist group complaining on the sex scene in the killing joke movie? I just realized that today.
The burden of proof was always on the accused, to demonstrate they reasonably thought they had consent. That's been the standard for rape cases for literally decades, if not centuries, because for a rape case to go to court, the victim is claiming they did NOT consent. So your defense has to be able to provide evidence as to why the victim is incorrect. You're the one who has to provide this, because we're talking about consent, which is the victim's state of mind, and they're better suited to be aware of that than anyone else, so if you want to contradict their statement, you're going to have to be able to provide an argument and/or evidence to back that up.
That's always been the case.
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And that consent can be words or actions. The parts you're discussing mean that if she consents to a blowjob, you don't have justification to force it into anything further without her continued consent.
Yes; they have to continue to be consenting. If they're still participating and enjoying, that is consent. If they go limp, that isn't. If they don't seem comfortable with going further, that isn't. And so on.
This stuff should be really obvious. It's not a fine distinction, and it really kind of disturbs me that some of you think it is. Why on Earth would you want to push someone into sex when they're passive and unresisting, rather than an eager contributor? Seriously, ew.
I'm torn on this.
If this is really the holy grail of the whole rape issue, why not broaden the scope to everyone? Why have it only to apply to young adults for 4-5 years?
A part of me thinks that advocates know that if it were applied to everyone, that it would face more scrutiny and push-back. The whole "When they came for socialists, I didn't worry" kind of thing. Who gives a shit about college kids? They probably had it coming anyway.
But another part of me thinks that colleges are just a testing ground and an attempt to set a precedent before they go for the big prize. After all, people who abide by a law to a certain degree when they're younger are probably more likely to accept another version of it when they're older.
It makes sense.
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It absolutely is not. Advocates acknowledge that affirmative consent prohibits a wide range of ordinary behavior, but simply assume that people won’t seek redress in seemingly minor cases even though they are entitled to do so. By casting such a wide net, affirmative consent gives the authorities broad leeway to pick and choose whom to punish—meaning, as is usually the case with such overbroad legislation, that the poor, minorities, and other socially disadvantaged groups will be hit hardest. The standard has never been affirmative consent, you are simply lying as you are wanton to do in the many discussion were you are wrong.
If things are already an "affirmative consent," situation there would be zero incentive to make that the law of the land, which it is not. The current standard is No means No, and that the law reflects that even in rape the accuser in theory has to prove the other person guilty. I know in practice we through all concepts of law, fairness and justice out the window because a woman is crying in the corner, BUT the law is clear that the burden falls officially on the accuser not the accused to prove a crime occurred, even in rape. THUS the desire to change the law. If affirmative consent was the law, which it isn't and you are absolutely lying through your teeth about this and being disingenuous as you always are, then there would be zero need to add these Yes Means Yes statutes.
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And which for some magical reason are still rape in areas that don't use affirmative consent.
And yet when similar law was passed in California even the lawmakers who supported it were either not sure about it or outright stated verbal consent is needed. Because, you know, the victim could have been to afraid to speak their mind and people misreading body language isn't uncommon. "I thought they gave clear signals of affirmation" is shit defense with yes means yes laws. Especially once you factor in that different people use different signals.
I'm not bothered, the more this happens, the more relationships will break down, the divide between the sexes will grow and the Western World will go the way of Japan.
It applies to generally everyone. Even the most faux-"progressive," will be squeamish thinking their daughter, sister, or mother is off at college getting plowed by frat guys and actually enjoying it. Activists in favor of Yes means Yes are hesitant to readily and openly discuss the nature of the bills and ideas of Yes means Yes, because it is a tough thing to sell to the public that they are basically making the sex that everyone has and has had since time immemorial illegal and for all practical purposes makes it impossible to prove it was legally sanctioned if one party decides to raise a stink, or if they fully apply the way it works on college campus' if ANYBODY decides to raise an issue.
On MMO-C we learn that Anti-Fascism is locking arms with corporations, the State Department and agreeing with the CIA, But opposing the CIA and corporate America, and thinking Jews have a right to buy land and can expect tenants to pay rent THAT is ultra-Fash Nazism. Bellingcat is an MI6/CIA cut out. Clyburn Truther.
Because affirmative consent has always been the legal standard. That's the point.
Here's the actual bill; https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/f...201320140SB967And yet when similar law was passed in California even the lawmakers who supported it were either not sure about it or outright stated verbal consent is needed. Because, you know, the victim could have been to afraid to speak their mind and people misreading body language isn't uncommon. "I thought they gave clear signals of affirmation" is shit defense with yes means yes laws. Especially once you factor in that different people use different signals.
Doesn't make any statement that the consent has to be verbal.
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A kiss doesn't qualify as "rape" under any law that I'm aware of. Try again.
A boyfriend smacks my ass or comes up behind me and starts kissing my neck. Normal ass relationship stuff that I know some of you guys are unaware of.
I am not giving "consent," under any feminist interpretation of what that means, if I don't want it I simply say "No, I'm not interested."
Yes means Yes, actually does mean that I'd have to be ASKED if I want my ass smacked, each time, and on each cheek. Considering I actually interact with the Title IX officers and actually have been part of organizing one of these kangaroo courts I am going to say I know more than a forum moderator who I suppose gets his information purely from Laci Green and XOJane.
On MMO-C we learn that Anti-Fascism is locking arms with corporations, the State Department and agreeing with the CIA, But opposing the CIA and corporate America, and thinking Jews have a right to buy land and can expect tenants to pay rent THAT is ultra-Fash Nazism. Bellingcat is an MI6/CIA cut out. Clyburn Truther.
Soon all sex will have to take place at government licenced reproduction centres, with a lawyer on hand to obtain consent after each stroke.