Which is blaming the victims for the potentially-criminal actions of their killers. Like in this case, where this officer has now been charged with manslaughter. Not abiding by her orders does not justify the shooting.
Your argument is in no way different from saying that if you obey the orders of the guy mugging you in an alley, you're less likely to get shot/stabbed, so people who get mugged and then killed are really the ones to blame, not the muggers. Which is obviously asinine. It doesn't become a magically more convincing argument when we replace "mugger" with "murderous police officer".
The USA isn't a police state. If an officer gives you an order that's unlawful, you should refuse to abide by it. You shouldn't have to fear that they might murder you for noncompliance. The whole thing is completely ridiculous.