Been fat. Now fit. Never had game.
Being fat, it was impossible. The whales won't even touch you.
Being fit, game matters but I definitely have my chances. I'd say about 25% success with anything over a 6.
Hooking up with someone from a bar is a bit like looking for a job.
- If you're in high demand, receiving offers from multiple companies, you'll try to get the best option from an objective point of view. You don't have the time to meet every single one of them for a few hours, so you filter and keep the best ones and go from there. (Women)
- If you don't receive any offers, then you're the one who has to initiate contact. That's rough. You can send your resume to every single one of them, but then you will most likely get shut down a lot. Most people opt to lower their standards. (Men)
Being the ones who have to initiate contact (most of the time) is what kills men. They are always in the vulnerable positions when initiating contact. They can be discarded easily since another man will most likely take his place instantly.
Thankfully, this doesn't apply as much at school and workplaces where you have more time to meet people. But yes, it's no secret that a woman who wants to get laid can easily find a match better looking than her, while men may have to lower their standards and still face a high chance of failure.
As my father always said : Life isn't fair; no point crying about it.