When Dating In The Era Of Divisive Politics, Both Sides Stick To Themselves

[Independent voter]

Would you date a trumpanista?

Women are usually left wing I think but not always. I dated on left wing girl for a year or two, politics wasn't a huge issue, it rarely came up in discussion, but that was before Trump.









http://www.npr.org/2017/02/14/515179...-to-themselves

They say opposites attract. But these days, maybe not so much.

A growing number of singles are adding a clause to their online dating profiles telling either Trump haters or Trump supporters — depending on their political preference — that they need not apply.

"This was like a deal breaker for me," says 50-year-old Elizabeth Jagosz from the Detroit area. "If you are Trump supporter, I'm not even going to consider meeting you for coffee."

It's not just an issue of party politics, Jagosz says. It's about core values. Love, she says, cannot conquer all.

"If you don't care about a person who says you can grab women by the pussy and that's OK — I don't wanna date you if you think that behavior's OK," Jagosz says. "If that's not a deal breaker for you, then you and I have nothing to talk about."

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As another single put it in her profile, "Red hats need not apply."

But the people wearing those red hats — the ones stamped with "Make America Great Again" — have been feeling the same way.

This lack of desire from liberals and conservatives to date each other is what David Goss says prompted him to launch TrumpSingles.com.

"Yeah, it's both ways," Goss says. "You know, like a liberal doesn't want to date a Nazi. And a republican doesn't want to date, well, a whiny snowflake, and that's what they're viewing each other as."

TrumpSingles.com is a kind of safe space for Trump supporters who say they're sick of the "lefties" refusing to even give them a chance.

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"[The liberals] are just repeating this left echo chamber of 'Oh, you must be a racist; oh, you must be a homophobe; oh, you must be a misogynist,' " Goss says. "They're judging the people based on who they voted for without actually getting to know them."

Helen Fisher, the chief scientific adviser to the Internet dating website Match.com, says new research from the website shows both liberals and conservatives are moving away from the center of the political spectrum.

"There's a real distinct difference that we're seeing today, and all singles are becoming more rigid in their views," she says.

The data also shows that singles are more likely now to shun those who are at the other end of the political spectrum. And liberals are more likely to spurn conservatives than the other way around.

"I think it's very natural to the human animal to bring it into the idea of 'OK, you like this person, well, you must be like that person then,' " Fisher says. "America is taking this very, very personally. No question about it."

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Looking back now, it seems almost unfathomable that even two opposing campaign advisers could cross the aisle and then actually walk down the aisle as James Carville and Mary Matalin did in 1993.

As Carville famously put it once, "You can love the sinner and hate the sin."

The couple says their secret to survival and harmony at home is simply agreeing to disagree.

But today, singles seem to be saying they just can't do that.

"I mean, I wish I could just go out and tell everyone to knock it off and be cool with each other, but it's just not going to work that way," Goss says.

His Trump Singles dating site is up to 35,000 members. LiberalHearts.com, founded by Salvatore Prano, is up to nearly 50,000.

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"There's more activity now than ever," Prano says. "I knew liberals would only find comfort in each other's arms."

But there is one other option for lonely liberals. Single Joe Goldman founded MapleMatch.com, a dating site that helps Americans find Canadians "to save them from the unfathomable horror of a Trump presidency." Goldman became his own first client.

"I can't tell you the sinking feeling I felt [after the election]," he says. "That's not the country I want to live in. So why not consider places that might be more in line with my values, like Canada."

It may be better than the alternative. According to the new Match.com survey, a growing number of liberals today are simply choosing to not date at all.

[Mormolyce]

I would count any strong political affiliation as a black mark when selecting a date. Or indeed, almost any ideology.

Although being a Trump fan specifically (distinct from just a right wing voter) is like triple points on that, because that's an indictment of your taste and intelligence as well.

[schwarzkopf]

Fun fact, things that aren't politics:

1. Climate Change
2. Education
3. Health Care
4. Nuclear Safety
5. Infrastructure (e.g. dams)
6. The existance of problems on this list...
7. ... etc

Things that are politics:

1. Picking which team you want to address the above issues.
2. That's it... no more.

[Bodakane]

I think it wasn't a big deal before Trump.

A Trump supporter is either:

- a racist, misogynist, xenophobe and/or bigot

OR

- they don't think those traits aren't a deal breaker for the leader of the free world.

The non-Trump supporters obviously think those traits are bad for POTUS so it stands to reason they think they are bad for a mate.

[Deleted]

I don't care about the political opinions of my partner unless they're blatantly supporting hatred against women or religion or anti-white policies.

[Tehshocka]

But but I thought libs loved everyone??????

[zenkai]

Would you date a trumpanista?

Women are usually left wing I think but not always. I dated on left wing girl for a year or two, politics wasn't a huge issue, it rarely came up in discussion, but that was before Trump.









http://www.npr.org/2017/02/14/515179...-to-themselves

They say opposites attract. But these days, maybe not so much.

A growing number of singles are adding a clause to their online dating profiles telling either Trump haters or Trump supporters — depending on their political preference — that they need not apply.

"This was like a deal breaker for me," says 50-year-old Elizabeth Jagosz from the Detroit area. "If you are Trump supporter, I'm not even going to consider meeting you for coffee."

It's not just an issue of party politics, Jagosz says. It's about core values. Love, she says, cannot conquer all.

"If you don't care about a person who says you can grab women by the pussy and that's OK — I don't wanna date you if you think that behavior's OK," Jagosz says. "If that's not a deal breaker for you, then you and I have nothing to talk about."

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As another single put it in her profile, "Red hats need not apply."

But the people wearing those red hats — the ones stamped with "Make America Great Again" — have been feeling the same way.

This lack of desire from liberals and conservatives to date each other is what David Goss says prompted him to launch TrumpSingles.com.

"Yeah, it's both ways," Goss says. "You know, like a liberal doesn't want to date a Nazi. And a republican doesn't want to date, well, a whiny snowflake, and that's what they're viewing each other as."

TrumpSingles.com is a kind of safe space for Trump supporters who say they're sick of the "lefties" refusing to even give them a chance.

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"[The liberals] are just repeating this left echo chamber of 'Oh, you must be a racist; oh, you must be a homophobe; oh, you must be a misogynist,' " Goss says. "They're judging the people based on who they voted for without actually getting to know them."

Helen Fisher, the chief scientific adviser to the Internet dating website Match.com, says new research from the website shows both liberals and conservatives are moving away from the center of the political spectrum.

"There's a real distinct difference that we're seeing today, and all singles are becoming more rigid in their views," she says.

The data also shows that singles are more likely now to shun those who are at the other end of the political spectrum. And liberals are more likely to spurn conservatives than the other way around.

"I think it's very natural to the human animal to bring it into the idea of 'OK, you like this person, well, you must be like that person then,' " Fisher says. "America is taking this very, very personally. No question about it."

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Looking back now, it seems almost unfathomable that even two opposing campaign advisers could cross the aisle and then actually walk down the aisle as James Carville and Mary Matalin did in 1993.

As Carville famously put it once, "You can love the sinner and hate the sin."

The couple says their secret to survival and harmony at home is simply agreeing to disagree.

But today, singles seem to be saying they just can't do that.

"I mean, I wish I could just go out and tell everyone to knock it off and be cool with each other, but it's just not going to work that way," Goss says.

His Trump Singles dating site is up to 35,000 members. LiberalHearts.com, founded by Salvatore Prano, is up to nearly 50,000.

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"There's more activity now than ever," Prano says. "I knew liberals would only find comfort in each other's arms."

But there is one other option for lonely liberals. Single Joe Goldman founded MapleMatch.com, a dating site that helps Americans find Canadians "to save them from the unfathomable horror of a Trump presidency." Goldman became his own first client.

"I can't tell you the sinking feeling I felt [after the election]," he says. "That's not the country I want to live in. So why not consider places that might be more in line with my values, like Canada."

It may be better than the alternative. According to the new Match.com survey, a growing number of liberals today are simply choosing to not date at all.

Most people I know are not so polarized that they care one way or another, and mature adults can disagree and still like each other. Now the people who are that polarized, well they will have to find someone as crazy as them, and in today's time and thanks to the internet it's not that hard to do.

[Deleted]

I think it wasn't a big deal before Trump.

A Trump supporter is either:

- a racist, misogynist, xenophobe and/or bigot

OR

- they don't think those traits aren't a deal breaker for the leader of the free world.

The non-Trump supporters obviously think those traits are bad for POTUS so it stands to reason they think they are bad for a mate.

Let me fix that for you: you either think that racism, misogynism, xenophobia and bigotry really, really exist... or that they're legitimately rare fringe cases and you start to despise the group-minded think-feelers for the blitzkrieg of social exclusion, which we know to always follow in this socio-political climate...

[Gamdwelf]

I think it wasn't a big deal before Trump.

A Trump supporter is either:

- a racist, misogynist, xenophobe and/or bigot

OR

- they don't think those traits aren't a deal breaker for the leader of the free world.

The non-Trump supporters obviously think those traits are bad for POTUS so it stands to reason they think they are bad for a mate.

Still not getting it?

When you care more about having a job to feed your family yeah you don't give a fuck about the environment etc.

[Bodakane]

Still not getting it?

When you care more about having a job to feed your family yeah you don't give a fuck about the environment etc.

lol.

I get it just fine. You guys lied to yourself SO HARD that you believe Trump a serial employee screwer is gonna give you a job. And you do all that while hating on the party that actually implements programs for the working man.

[Gamdwelf]

lol.

I get it just fine. You guys lied to yourself SO HARD that you believe Trump a serial employee screwer is gonna give you a job. And you do all that while hating on the party that actually implements programs for the working man.

Well Stupids gonna stupe.

infracted - minor flaming

[Maletalana]

Still not getting it?

When you care more about having a job to feed your family yeah you don't give a fuck about the environment etc.

Exactly, it's about priorities. Some folks are so heated about the Dakota pipeline and impeaching the president vs. giving him a chance and crusading for economic growth, yet I'm over here looking for someone who takes their coffee the same way I do and chooses to donate to the Humane Society (to help feed and house animals before they are adopted) before I donate to a political party, as an example. Priorities.

[Deleted]

Well, at least now their profile warns you about crazy.

Never date crazy.

[Bodakane]

Well Stupids gonna stupe.

You're right....they voted in Trump.

[Maletalana]

Well Stupids gonna stupe.

Stupe.

Verb.

To make an incredibly stupid argument.
I stupe, you stupe, he/she/they stupe.

xD

[ItachiZaku]

My valentine's date yesterday was a 22 year old white female trumpet supporter. I didn't have a problem with it. We had a few laughs at idiot libs. We had a few laughs at idiot righties. Politics is a fun topic to joke about, when one of the people isn't a hardcore internet political analyst.

[Dug]

If politics are coming up in the first few dates you should probably call it quits there. I probably wouldn't date a Trumpkin or righty though, no. But I'd be down for a lay.

[Allenseiei]

Me and my girlfriend are pragmatists, we don't care about ideologies. We want our personal and our future family's prosperity, no matter who it is that leads the country as long as that is preserved. Taking this into account, 80% of the preservation of this comes from our own effort, so we usually vote who has a better education plan or lowers taxes.

[Ethris]

I think it wasn't a big deal before Trump.

No, it was. Privilege Politics and marxist intersectional brain cancer has been around for some time.

I tend to avoid women altogether now. I am not a walking ATM to finance a lifestyle they cannot maintain on their own; nor am I a genetic donor for offspring over which I have zero reproductive control. And I refuse to be another divorce statistic or false rape accusation waiting to happen. This is the future y'all chose, and MGTOW is how I'm going to navigate it.

The whole "If you voted for trump swipe left" phenomenon is a great litmus test to sort out the obvious crazies from the ones whose psychopathy is at least slightly hidden.

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lol.

I get it just fine. You guys lied to yourself SO HARD that you believe Trump a serial employee screwer is gonna give you a job. And you do all that while hating on the party that actually implements programs for the working man.

As long as those jobs are menial labor and the working man isn't a cis white male.

[Deleted]

No, it was. Privilege Politics and marxist intersectional brain cancer has been around for some time.

I tend to avoid women altogether now. I am not a walking ATM to finance a lifestyle they cannot maintain on their own; nor am I a genetic donor for offspring over which I have zero reproductive control. And I refuse to be another divorce statistic or false rape accusation waiting to happen. This is the future y'all chose, and MGTOW is how I'm going to navigate it.

The whole "If you voted for trump swipe left" phenomenon is a great litmus test to sort out the obvious crazies from the ones whose psychopathy is at least slightly hidden.

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As long as those jobs are menial labor and the working man isn't a cis white male.

I think the problem is you, not women. Just judging by the hate you spew towards women.