Originally Posted by
mulletman
So I have a friend I met at work about a year ago and we've grown to be pretty good friends. She's currently dating someone that regularly makes her cry and they've been dating for about 8 months and having problems for the last 4. She regularly shares stories with me about him that make me wonder just WTF is she still doing with him?
After new years, she was working major overtime and went to his place after work. When she got there, he wasn't so she calls him and he says he's at the store for his mom and she should let herself in, he'll be back in 10 minutes. His 7-8 year old daughter is playing video games (pretty sure alone in the house but I could be wrong) and 20-30 minutes goes by and she calls again. He says he's at the check out, he'll be back in 5 minutes. Another 20 or so minutes goes by and he gets to his place, she gives him a kiss and says his breath wreaks of booze. He says, "I'm not going to lie to baby, I was at the bar." She knows he's a drinker and she doesn't like it but she replied "Why were you lying to me?" and her boyfriend says "I'm sorry baby, I'm just so used to lying to cover up my tracks." She didn't have a very conservative response to that and had issues trusting him even before that.
Another time, the 2 of them went to a kid's museum with their 2 kids (they both have a child from a previous relationship) and afterwards they went to meet his mom and his mom's friend for drinks at Applebee's or something. His daughter asked if they were ever going to break up and the boyfriend said "No we're never going to break up." I honestly thought that was an odd thing to say to a little kid but she knew they'd been having problems for months and said "Well you never really know what the future will bring." I have doubts that she'd put attitude behind it or anything but I wasn't there for it. Then her boyfriend, his mom, and his mom's friend all started a conversation about when he's getting back with his ex-wife. It wasn't just a comment is was about 5 minutes of them talking about it in front of her so she said "Thanks for the drinks." Then promptly left some money and walked out.
She's called me several nights just crying about the shit he says/does like that and it is so heartbreaking for me to hear. This is a guy that doesn't let her do things because he finds it disrespectful but he has no issues disrespecting her. Like when they go on a date, he's on his phone a lot to the point she wants to take it from him and throw it at his face but if she's on her phone in her house he loses his shit. We don't hang out outside of work because he gets REALLY jealous and pissy that another guy is doing things with her but we would both very much like to hang out or something. I keep asking her why she puts up with it but she usually doesn't have an answer or says her other friends ask the same thing. Although 1 night she said she didn't want to give up on him and that it would be good for her son and his daughter.
Back in like September, I asked her if she were ever single again if she would tell me and she's pretty aware I have feelings for her. About 2 weeks ago as of the time of this writing, she broke up with him saying that they only sleep together and don't see each other on weekends and that's not much of a relationship so she's breaking up with him (didn't mention the controlling relationship part). 3 days later she takes him back because he talked her into it.
Here's the twists in all this, she gave me her number out of no where back in October, she likes to flirt with me a lot, she asks me to buy her small things from time to time (soda's and food, she's poor and really nice so I don't care), likes to feed me as in directly put food into my mouth the flirty seductive way, says she looks at me the way I look at her, had a very lengthy face time chat the night after she broke up with him (she says she only does that for her boyfriend), has said she wishes I was her man on more than one occasion, and about an hour after she broke up with him she was rubbing on my crotch jacking me off at work.
I'm pretty aware she likes me and all that but its all just a huge mash of WTF to me. Should I be trying to steal her away or just let the relationship deteriorate again? Just so everyone is on the same page: yes, she is hot and has an amazing body. Any comment to assist in helping me vent or advice is appreciated.
TLDR: lady has a shitty boyfriend and likes me more than him