You know what it is? Humans are great at adapting. You have no sexual relationships in your life and your mind had to adapt to that. Humans are capable of adapting to anything. Right now, we all feel very good, cuddled behind our screens, browsing the forums and playing videogames. If our internet would go away right now, it would be fucking hell. But imagine it never comes back. You'd adapt and eventually you'd be like "I don't even need the internet. Why did people ever need the internet? There was a time before the internet. Sure the internet is nice, but now I'm going out more." And you can take this further and further. Even if we had to go back to living in caves or in the jungle, having to hunt our own food, you'd eventually adapt. It's the human spirit. It's how we survived.
You could become a bum, and you would eventually adapt and get used to eating food from garbage bins. "This isn't so bad. At least I'm still alive." But what life is that to live?
If you get a girfriend, and you fall in love, and then eventually it ends, you'll probably be heart-broken. You'll be miserable. There's a time before you met that person, and you were fine. But now that this person has been in your life for so long, and is now gone, all of a sudden it's like a piece from you is missing. But again, even in this situation, you'll eventually adapt, and it will be like before.
So you could look at that and say "yeah, why do I need sex or a girlfriend that loves me, I don't miss it right now... I'm happy the way things are".
But if you're anything like me, or most other people, you'll have to admit that there are moments where you want more from life than what you have right now. You don't want the only sexual experience you're gonna have in your entire life to be that of your own hand touching your wiener. You will want to experience more than just that. You will want to know what it feels like to put your penis into the warm and moist vagina of a sweet girl. You will want to know what it feels like to touch the warm and soft skin of a person lying next to you. You will want to seek the emotional bond to another human being. Chances are, you are thinking about these things every night before you go to sleep, maybe hugging yourself a little bit, imagining that it is someone else hugging you. And the next morning you wake up, do whatever it is you do every morning, go to work, come home, play videogames, and these thoughts are deep buried, and you feel fine. But they will resurface. Again. And again. And again. Even if only briefly.
This is normal. Humans are not meant to be alone. Not forever anyway. Realize that it doesn't have to be this way. Realize that there is no reason why your desires have to go unfulfilled. Admit that you are not completely indifferent to this. No heterosexual man is. Every man has needs. If these needs aren't met, we compensate by doing other things. Like masturbating. But while masturbating, you will eventually think of fucking a girl. You will eventually come and then you might think "how much better would it be if I was actually having sex with the girl I was picturing in my head". You might go outside and see girls with nice asses and think "wow, how lucky I would be to fuck that girl".
You can.
If you are still reading this, and chances are you are long gone and haven't even made it here, but if you are still reading this, here is my advice.
1) Stop masturbating.
And I mean completely. It will be hard at first, and it doesn't mean you can never masturbate ever again. Masturbating is natural and the desire to do it is nothing to be ashamed of. But try and aim for not masturbating. Start with a day. Then eventually try not to masturbate for a few days. Then a week. Then a month. The hardest will be, when after a week of not masturbating, you do it, and then automatically start to do it several times in rapid succession. I usually have this problem, that I will not masturbate for a whoie week, and then all of a sudden masturbate 3-5 times that day I break my streak. And then go back to business as usual. It's really hard to stop again once you've started again. So this will take a while to get the hang of.
Why do it? Cause too much masturbating zaps your energy. It desensitizes you, which makes your orgasms feel less and less intense the more you masturbate. And it actually reduces your motivation to pursue women. It makes you content to just stay at home and whack your snake, so why deal with women, where you can be rejected and be embarrassed?
And stop watching porn altogether. It creates unrealistic expectations, it desensitizes you even more, making you develop weirder and weirder sexual fetishes to compensate and who the fuck wants to watch some guy fuck a woman that you wanna fuck? That's just one step away from being a cuck.
2) Hit the gym
If you don't already do this. This will improve your looks, your health and it will raise your testosterone levels. Plus you get to see gorgeous women every day, keeping you motivated and showing you every day why you're doing this. To be experiencing ecstasy with a woman like that.
3) Study game
The best place to start is probably
Return of Kings, and
Roosh V's youtube channel. Buy and read at least "Bang" and "Day Bang" from Roosh, and browse RoK and watch some of Roosh's videos. And don't let anyone tell you anything about Roosh or PUA's. Their advice can help you improve yourself and help you get laid. No matter how impossible it might seem to you to be able to approach, talk to and bang hot girls, it is all about confidence and trying. Sure, you need to look somewhat good. If you're fat, you need to lose weight or lower your standards. But if you are at least average-looking, confidence and the sheer effort you put into approaching women WILL get you laid guaranteed. Some good videos to start are probably these.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OS6klYYrkfo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RwVF_T_E1rk
Look there's no reason to be ashamed if you're alone. There is no reason to be ashamed if you're a virgin. No reason to be ashamed if you're fat, shy, a nerd, unexperienced with women etc. The only thing to be ashamed of is having given up. Be honest with yourself. Be honest and tell me you are not sometimes desiring sex with beautiful women. Be honest and tell me you are not sometimes wishing for more than you have right now. Be honest and tell me you don't sometimes wish you could be a better version of yourself.