I feel emotional attachments through sex and therefore for me, I don't want to have sex with people I don't feel a certain level of attachment to, and I like the two vs the rest of the world feeling of a monogamous relationship, so I voted no.
People other than my partner are free to do whatever with whomever, but I like my partners to feel the same sense of exclusivity that I do when it comes to sex.
1. Women initiate less often than men. 2. She doesn't really need to initiate in the first place. Just let do social norms do the work, have men approach her and choose the one she sees as acceptable. 3. If they're both just looking for sex, chances are the woman is going to be successful pretty quickly. A man, not necessarily so. So even if he eventually gets approached by the woman that feels like initiating, he could have already unsuccessfully initiated with other women in that day prior to it happening.
Also, in regards to your earlier points, they rest on the assumption that there is an equal amount of men and women seeking sex alone. As well as that women having sex more easily than men has to mean that there is no difference in difficulty because if women have sex with men, then it evens out. The assumption being that there's an equal distribution of men and women that have sex easily across the board. But it can very well be that there's a smaller group of more successful men get to have sex easily with a larger amount of women. So while there'd be so men that have it easier, maybe as easy as women even, it wouldn't be the case for men on average. Of course it can go the other way around, but given how women tend to be more picky, I wouldn't count on that.
I'm sure plenty of average decent looking dudes who don't score a lot could have lots of sex with unattractive women... but hey "no fatties", "dog face" etc.
The concept intrigues me, but I don't see it working for myself.
Now you see it. Now you don't.
But was where Dalaran?
There's a big flaw here with that. Those attractive and socially adept men are not going to go for below average females, when they have no need to. So you'll have to explain how the bottom 50% of women can be successful, if that narrow group of men gets it all, but won't touch the other half.
I saw some graphs from one of the bigger online dating sites that showed how women tend to rank most men as below average, while men have a more normal distribution or something along those lines (the numbers about initiating contact were similarly skewed, if not worse). And that's for dating. I'd lean towards steeper standards (well, at least before including alcohol) for ONS.
Ok, fair point. But I was talking about something like going to jail for harassment or getting maced or stabbed in the face. I'd take being called a slut over that. Hell, if I was a girl, I would be a slut so hard I would be putting all the other sluts that came before me to shame. But I wouldn't try and get a guy to provide for me and convince him to allow me to bang other guys. I'd just be honest and either commit or not, if I was unable to do that.
Not for me, I'm with someone to be with them. If people can make it work, more power to them, though I've seen a few try and fall apart, so obviously it's got to involve the right mindset.
Been in one. It could work with the right partner, I guess, but that takes a -lot- of trust, faith, responsibility and compassion on all parties' side, over a long time whether you're having a bad day/period in your life or not. Much easier said than done.
I doubt it's quite as simple, for say overweight women. (which is becoming a problem rapidly for both men and women these days) Or ones that don't look good on average. They are not going to get picked up by good looking men. So what about the rest of the men you say are sitting in the corner? They have a chance now, but do they take it, or keep sitting in the corner?
Indeed ^^