Applying to college, who is MORE right? The kid or the mom?

[GarlicGuy]

No idea. But I'm mystified that they even charge for applying.

on second thought, I do have an idea: the kid can get a job and spend the salary on applications.

It helps stop kids who have no chance from applying.... why spend money on something you won't get..... It also helps pay for all the marketing these schools do to attract students.....

[Thelyron]

While i think that, yes, the mother is absolutely obligated to pay for his applications... if Harvard accepts you, and you're still looking for other schools to apply too, you're an idiot.

[Puupi]

It helps stop kids who have no chance from applying.... why spend money on something you won't get..... It also helps pay for all the marketing these schools do to attract students.....

It stops kids who have no money to apply even if they had a chance otherwise.

[Deleted]

Publish universities also charge for applications.

Now that's just amusing.

[Puupi]

Now that's just amusing.

It's almost as if they didn't want poor people to get an education.

[Deleted]

It helps stop kids who have no chance from applying.... why spend money on something you won't get..... It also helps pay for all the marketing these schools do to attract students.....

Stopping the poor from being disappointed. How very nice of them =D.
Things cost as much as people are willing to pay. Americans, I guess, are willing to pay for all kinds of stuff.

[Kathandira]

It helps stop kids who have no chance from applying.... why spend money on something you won't get..... It also helps pay for all the marketing these schools do to attract students.....

Are you suggesting the intelligence is linked to financial stability?

[Kathandira]

It stops kids who have no money to apply even if they had a chance otherwise.

Indeed. This is what grants and scholarships are for. To help those who are not so financially capable to have a chance at a great education.

[igualitarist]

To clarify, I'm not surprised. Only lightly perplexed.
Private institutions gonna private institution. It's just that I'm more used to how things run here: public unis being the actually desirable place to learn.

So, the fact that you need to pay $100 to apply to a college makes the place automatically an undesirable place to learn ? Can't see your logic here, especially because the best universities in the world are private institutions.

But i see what you are trying to do here

[GarlicGuy]

Stopping the poor from being disappointed. How very nice of them =D.
Things cost as much as people are willing to pay. Americans, I guess, are willing to pay for all kinds of stuff.

Well you can look at it that way, but what I meant was, kids who don't have the grades to qualify..... those kids are more likely to not apply if they have to pay to apply.

[cuafpr]

some information is missing here is the kid 18 yet? Still living at home? but regardless if the kid wants to apply to more schools, go earn the 20-100 and do it. Don't depend on mommy and daddy anymore...

so glad i don't have kids to worry about such petty stuff directly. Though i do get "looks" when i mentioned to my nephews they dont have to go college, and to remember trade skills are a thing as well as the military.

[Kathandira]

Well you can look at it that way, but what I meant was, kids who don't have the grades to qualify..... those kids are more likely to not apply if they have to pay to apply.

Ahhh! That makes more sense.

[GarlicGuy]

Are you suggesting the intelligence is linked to financial stability?

Nope. I am saying if you don't have the grades, don't waste money on applying. The colleges clearly define what they expect. Google "Common Data Set" for almost any college and you will see what I mean.

[Synbios]

If there was a limit to the number of schools she would pay the application for, then she should have mentioned it before so that he could make his picks accordingly. As it stands, she's a selfish piece of trash with emotional issues that require medical attention. Defending overprotective parents with emotional issues "because it's their money" is missing the point in a major way.

[Deleted]

So, the fact that you need to pay $100 to apply to a college makes the place automatically an undesirable place to learn ? Can't see your logic here, especially because the best universities in the world are private institutions.

I recognized that's how private institutions work, and then admitted my perplexity stems from how I'm used to how things run elsewhere.
And you interpret some desirability or lack of it?. That's some pretty great imagination you have there.

But i see what you are trying to do here

Showing my slight perplexity. Nothing else, fwiend.

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Well you can look at it that way, but what I meant was, kids who don't have the grades to qualify..... those kids are more likely to not apply if they have to pay to apply.

Oh, wow, this angle makes it so much more understandable and charitable.

[Endus]

He applied to 8 schools, and I presume at least some were top-shelf ivy-league, since Harvard's in that list. And he was accepted to 7 out of the 8. Pick one of the 7. If there was another school you REALLY wanted to attend, why wasn't it in your Top 8? Why would you pass on 7 out of your top 8 in favor of that other school? Just pick one and be done.

If you were a poor candidate but needed college anyway, it would've made more sense to blanket applications out there, particularly to lower-ranked schools, but this is just pointless self-aggrandizement. The kid's in the wrong, here.

If you want to be angry because your mom limited you to 8 local schools (including Harvard, for fuck's sake), then fine, but don't pretend that you didn't get to apply to enough schools. Be angry that she limited your options based on geography. Not the number.

[isuridedes]

The mother's reasoning (staying close to home) is a disservice - but at the end of the day it's not the child's money being spent.

They allowed him to apply to 8 separate colleges at a cost of $50 - $100 per application. That's already a cost of $400 to $800 just to see if he is accepted. College is expensive, and attending a college out-of-state can be even more expensive. If their son cannot accept that there are legitimate monetary concerns with the costs associated with going to college, perhaps he should get a job and pay for his own applications.

• In-State Tuition to a typical U.S. college runs almost $10,000 per year.
• Out-of-State Tuition can be upwards of $25,000 per year.
• Room and Board can run a student another $10,000 per year.
• Books can run you about $1,500 per year.

Hell, I almost wonder if "I want my son closer to home" isn't the excuse, and the truth is "Sending my kid to college too far away might just bankrupt me".

[Tyrianth]

If he wanted to go to school further away, why didn't he apply for this schools first? I side with the mom in this case.

[Endus]

No idea. But I'm mystified that they even charge for applying.

on second thought, I do have an idea: the kid can get a job and spend the salary on applications.

It's an issue of administrative costs. The applications need to be reviewed personally, and if you didn't have a cost attached, people would apply to ALL THE SCHOOLS, so you'd get one kid's application processed by 50-100 schools, when they're only going to actually attend one. So it means they have to winnow through thousands more applications, and get TONS more rejections by students who choose to attend elsewhere even when offered a slot, meaning that they're constantly shuffling through their waiting list trying to find anyone who hasn't been accepted.

Adding more applications to the mix just makes that all way more complicated, and there's good reasons to get students to make informed decisions about those college applications. Know where you want to attend, and WHY, and make contact with the staff there you hope to study with, and so forth. You need to realize that college acceptance is about what YOU bring to THEM, not the other way around.

[Deleted]

Being the uneducated man that i am.

Why apply for 8 different colleges to begin with? Why not choose one and do your best to get in there, maybe two if you fear being declined on one of them.