Originally Posted by
Wiltrold
This is probably going to be a tale just like the rest on here, but I need your advice none the less.
About a year ago, this girl starts working in the same company as I did at the time. I don't really think much of her, other than she is quite funny, has some interesting opinions and is sort of the usual semi-attractive girl. Nothing out the ordinary. Fast-forward a year and I decide to quit my spare-time job in the company. I was surprised that she actually showed up at the farewell ceremony despite not being at work that day.
Fast forward another 3 weeks and I'm invited back to a friday-bar at the company to meet up with the my ex-coworkers. The girl is there aswell and now I actually have the thought: "Hey, she's actually kinda cute". I know that she has a boyfriend so I again ignore this feeling. Nevertheless, I invite her to a party at my dorm the next evening that she agrees to go to. We dance the entire night at this party and she really enjoys herself despite knowing only me there. Again, I convince myself that everything is cool and that she's just friend. Thing however start to get a bit confusing, atleast to me. The next day i text her and she tell me she had fun blabla, and that she looks forward to dance again next weekend. I'm like: "Wait, what's going on next weekend?" Turn out she overheard a conversation I had with a friend at the dorm party, talking about going to this October-fest themed party, and then asked my friend later if she could come aswell.
Fast forward a week. I text her and invite her and my friend to make dinner and have a few glasses of wine before the October-fest. She agrees and it's actually a really good time. At the party however, things turn pretty akward quickly. I get extremely drunk, to the point where I actually have a few black outs and I make a few comments to her that there are no cute girls at this party etc. At some point my good friend pull me aside and tells me to pull myself together, that she thinks I'm cute, that she constantly stares at me while I'm talking, that the only reason she came to this party was because I was going aswell, and that I should go in and talk and dance more with her instead of concentrating on all the other thing. It was however too late at this point, as she was trying to hook up with another guy and obviously wasn't interested in talking with me at that point.
The night ended with me puking in a toilet and she going home with some dude. The feelings I woke up with this morning were really mixed. She had mentioned a few times that she had boyfriend when we were working together, so I really hadn't given any thought to actually trying to hook up with her at any point.
My question is then: Did I fuck up? Do you think that her behaviour signals attraction? What would you suggest that my next move be? Should I wait and see what happens if we meet again, should I straight up tell her about it, or maybe something else?
My reaction to seeing her with another guy last night has me convinced that I do have some feeling for her after all, but that I have repressed them in fear of ruining my friendship with her and that I was certain that they wouldn't bring anything good.