The Girl of my dreams may have changed her mind about me. What do I do?

[Wildberry]

Deleted.
10char

[Merganzer]

You can't. Women are illogical. Find a new one.

Mod Warning: Post more constructively.

[haxartus]

Women are illogical.

Exactly. And he attempted to deal with the situation logically. The biggest mistake men make dealing with women.

[Magisleeper]

Your already in the friend zone, by being there at the wrong time when another guy hurt her.

She is going to get over this, but it wont be with you, she will only be able to 'trust' someone she doesnt already know.

Dont waste your time, it is never going to happen, your only chance is to give her tons of space, wait for her to work this shit out herself, and then pop back into her life once she is more trusting and then you can act like you had always been there. Short of getting one of her friends to cockblock every other guy she meets your SOL.

[Rendhammer]

How can I convince this girl that I'll never hurt her, without putting myself in the friend zone?

Simply put? You can't. You cannot convince people to see the way you see it. You've already given too much as it is, which usually scares them away. If it was going to happen and she wanted it to, it would have already.

You have to casually poke interest at her while still maintaining distance and never confess your deepest feelings until she does, even then it might scare her off.

Best to move on, she may miss it when you're gone and come knocking. By then you'll have actually moved on.

[Digglett]

Women are illogical. Find a new one.

Generalizing is cool. She simply doesn't seem to have feelings for you, to put it bluntly.

[Deleted]

"Ur a nice kid".

Sorry dude, but there is no chance for you. Not for the moment anyway.

[Varyk]

You really need to back off. It doesn't sound like she wants to be with anyone and it doesn't sound like you even know her that well. Breathing down her neck all the time is going to get you nowhere, really fast.

[Uncle Julian]

I'd go listen to Greenday's "Nice Guys Finish Last" song. Has merit to some degree

[Jurwi]

I've known this girl for a little while now, and I really want to date her, she's perfect in every way, well her past boyfriend hurt her REALLY bad, and when I told her how I felt about her, she said she needed time, and I told her I'd wait for as long as she needed, She told me that when she was ready, she would tell me, later on I told her she was the only girl I've ever felt this way about, and she told me she hoped that she could continue being the only one, well later on that day she seemed depressed and I asked her what was wrong, and she just said "I'm thinking about how I've been hurt and, how I don't need anybody" Well I told her I'd never hurt her, and she told me it was an empty promise, we continued talking, but she fell asleep, well today I brought back up the issue, and told her truthfully about how I felt about her, and asked her to take a leap of faith, telling her that I'd be there to catch her when she fell, and she just says I don't want any of this, and went on to say that she's tired of her friends pushing people on her, and whatnot, I would love this girl, if she'd let me, but she told me, when I asked how she felt about me, this: "Ur a nice kid, but I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't let anyone in so easily anymore" How can I convince this girl that I'll never hurt her, without putting myself in the friend zone?

She clearly needs time, and you keep pushing her. Stop it. Or she just doesn't like you that way but doesn't want to crush you directly. Either way, back off, stop with the leap of faith and other BS when she clearly is not interested, at least right now.

For once, prioritize her feelings over your hornyness.

[Blznsmri]

She led you on. She enjoyed the attention. That's all.

[Yavannie]

Loving all the "girls are not logical" comments. We're flesh and blood, just the same as you. If there's attraction, we act on it.

[Jurwi]

She led you on. She enjoyed the attention. That's all.

This is also something chicks sometimes like to do when shit hits the fan (like being hurt by ex bf). It feels nice to get some attention.

[Magisleeper]

Just want to add something else here, as stated women are illogical, and are like bunnies when it comes to men talking about thier feelings.

You almost have to trick women into liking you, they are like children and puppies they want what they cant have. Ever notice when your in a relationship all the women seem available? Its because they operate off the mental notion that if another woman likes you, you must be good. Just like with puppies, they always want a chew toy if another dog already has it but quickly lose interest when they have it for themselves.

You need to act like your not interested at all, while arranging as much 'spontaneous' interaction as possible, a huge chunk of women believe in 'fate' so if they keep seeing you at random places and random times they will think 'it was meant to be' while a successful man will know that its actually a carefully planned manipulation.

Most women are just plain crazy, dont put too much stock into them, be so casual when it comes to relationships that it seems you dont care at all, it will make it matter all that much more when you do show some feeling.

Mod Warning: Opinions are fine, however don't generalize it.

[Blznsmri]

This is also something chicks sometimes like to do when shit hits the fan (like being hurt by ex bf). It feels nice to get some attention.

Most of my female friends do it. And that's why they're just my friends. Save for like 2-3...

[Digglett]

Just want to add something else here, as stated women are illogical, and are like bunnies when it comes to men talking about thier feelings.

You almost have to trick women into liking you, they are like children and puppies they want what they cant have. Ever notice when your in a relationship all the women seem available? Its because they operate off the mental notion that if another woman likes you, you must be good. Just like with puppies, they always want a chew toy if another dog already has it but quickly lose interest when they have it for themselves.

You need to act like your not interested at all, while arranging as much 'spontaneous' interaction as possible, a huge chunk of women believe in 'fate' so if they keep seeing you at random places and random times they will think 'it was meant to be' while a successful man will know that its actually a carefully planned manipulation.

Most women are just plain crazy, dont put too much stock into them, be so casual when it comes to relationships that it seems you dont care at all, it will make it matter all that much more when you do show some feeling.

Uhm yeah -- no. Can't simply lump all women into doing the same things, you guys don't like it when we say all men are jerks and all they want is to screw, guess what? Women don't like being generalized either, you can't have double standards.

[Magisleeper]

Loving all the "girls are not logical" comments. We're flesh and blood, just the same as you. If there's attraction, we act on it.

Yes flesh and blood thats crazy.. but seriously, have you ever complained to a good male friend about a bad boyfriend and then asked 'where are all the good guys?'

Unless he is gay I am pretty sure these were his thoughts at the time 'RIGHT FUCKING HERE YOUR TALKING TO ME RIGHT NOW!!' all the while keeping a pokerface.

Now maybe this isnt you exactly or every girl but its happened enough to be relevant.

[Deleted]

She seems perfect but really just wait untill you really really know her. Love makes you blind. *insert James Brown quote here *

[Varyk]

Just want to add something else here, as stated women are illogical, and are like bunnies when it comes to men talking about thier feelings.

You almost have to trick women into liking you, they are like children and puppies they want what they cant have. Ever notice when your in a relationship all the women seem available? Its because they operate off the mental notion that if another woman likes you, you must be good. Just like with puppies, they always want a chew toy if another dog already has it but quickly lose interest when they have it for themselves.

You need to act like your not interested at all, while arranging as much 'spontaneous' interaction as possible, a huge chunk of women believe in 'fate' so if they keep seeing you at random places and random times they will think 'it was meant to be' while a successful man will know that its actually a carefully planned manipulation.

Most women are just plain crazy, dont put too much stock into them, be so casual when it comes to relationships that it seems you dont care at all, it will make it matter all that much more when you do show some feeling.

haha so true. I have a little puppy. Ill give her food and she wont eat it, but the second I give it to our other dog she's all over it. Same goes when I pet the other dog or cats, she starts freaking out acting as if I've ignored her. Even tho she prob gets 10x the attention the other pets do.

[Magisleeper]

Uhm yeah -- no. Can't simply lump all women into doing the same things, you guys don't like it when we say all men are jerks and all they want is to screw, guess what? Women don't like being generalized either, you can't have double standards.

Guess what, thats what every girl I have ever explained this too has said, and its funny because it will still work on them after being explained. You dont have to believe me, and thats ok because I am really only addressing the males here.