Help convincing wife to let me come back?

[bewbilicious]

I played WoW up until a week or some before Cataclysm was released, but sadly during my "wow career" I became extremely addicted to the entire raiding scene and as a result nearly ended up divorced. I recently have had a HUGE want to come back to the game and try out Cataclysm and try to easy back into raiding (Keeping it casual, maybe 2 days a week). I have tried to approach the whole ordeal with my wife but frankly she wants nothing to do with the discussion. I was curious if anyone else has been in this situation and if anyone could give me advice to show her I am going to be able to keep it in check and not let it come between us again. I can see where she is coming from but yeah, I need help so I can come back to my "stress reliever"

Thanks in advance.

[Vyce223]

Tell her she can turn parental controls on you.

[Kiasari]

Compromise. At the end of the day tho your girl is more important than a game. Not worth arguing over to me, really, especially if she has reasons to dislike it (it took away time you used to spend with her).

[Anaximander]

If your marriage is in danger, wow is the worst thing to get addicted to

[Zalmanusa]

Casual raiding gets boring fast. I'd suggest getting a hobby or finding other games.

[Kiasari]

I mean imagine if your wife got addicted to gambling or something and you almost divorced her over it. Then years later you find a casino voucher on the floor or something. How pissed would you be?

[bewbilicious]

My marriage is fine now, we ended up doing counseling and a sort of "rehab". Things literally got better once I showed her I cancelled my account and gave all my gold away to a random person in /Trade (Lucky bastard got nearly 200k gold)

[saberon]

If you almost got divorced once before... stay the fuck away from WoW. Unless of course you value WoW more than you value your wife. Then by all means play away.

[BatteredRose]

My marriage is fine now, we ended up doing counseling and a sort of "rehab". Things literally got better once I showed her I cancelled my account and gave all my gold away to a random person in /Trade (Lucky bastard got nearly 200k gold)

And there's your problem. You're trying to come back to what basically took you away from her.

Edit:

Anyway, to add a little suggestion, maybe find something else that you two can do together, or at least something that you alone won't get so addicted to. Granted one can basically get hooked on anything I suppose. Maybe have some kind of compromise if you're really set on returning to WoW. Like someone said, parental controls, but of course let her be in control of it. Or maybe have her play a little and see how she likes it (though of course you did mention she wants nothing to do with the discussion, which may be a safe bet that she wouldn't be so willing to give the game a try).

[Asics]

I was in a similar position, though not as extreme. I'm not sure of your WoW habits but if you are like me raiding was very important. Progression raiding even more so. The only way I could enjoy WoW is if I was progression raiding on a schedule. The schedule itself was what was causing the relationship problem. My fiance had no problem that I enjoyed WoW but when it came to raid nights she absolutely could not stand being told she had to wait if she needed me for something. She hated the fact I put raiding ahead of everything else for those 4 hours those 3 days a week. No amount of explaining would validate it as it's "just a silly video game."

My advice is just give it up. Like I said if you are like me, raiding was where all the joy in the game was, now I cannot (progression) raid I cannot enjoy the game any further. However if you can enjoy playing without raiding and being okay playing at most an hour per session, then maybe you can continue.

[Mukki]

I played WoW up until a week or some before Cataclysm was released, but sadly during my "wow career" I became extremely addicted to the entire raiding scene and as a result nearly ended up divorced. I recently have had a HUGE want to come back to the game and try out Cataclysm and try to easy back into raiding (Keeping it casual, maybe 2 days a week). I have tried to approach the whole ordeal with my wife but frankly she wants nothing to do with the discussion. I was curious if anyone else has been in this situation and if anyone could give me advice to show her I am going to be able to keep it in check and not let it come between us again. I can see where she is coming from but yeah, I need help so I can come back to my "stress reliever"

Thanks in advance.

Playing with fire. You'll become addicted again, this is how relapses happen. Get a different hobby man.

[Pyro1990]

If you love your wife you'll just drop it and stay away from the game. Seeing as it almost drove a wedge between you two before even if you could convince her to say yes there is no doubt that she will be in some way bitter/ feel betrayed by the decision.

[bewbilicious]

She simply just hates WoW, I currently raid with no problems from her in a game called Rift (Often 4 days a week). But the very mention of WoW she flips =(

Guess I should listen to what everyone has said so far, and just give it up.

[A Challenger!]

I cannot believe WoW killed a marriage now. So far WoW has killed people, infants, and now a marriage. That is quite "incredible".

[EscapeLB]

It would depend on your definition of casual raiding and what she's okay with.

I raid 2-3 days a week and I consider that casual.

Sounds like your wife is being selfish. This would be like me telling my fiance she can't ever watch American Idol again...or Gossip Girl...or Greys Anatomy...or...jeez I don't think she would survive without a DVR.

If she ever threatens to throw my gaming rig out, I guess I can use the DVR as leverage.

[anveena]

Dude you almost got divorced over the game. Why on earth would you want to come back? You're going to just end up getting addicting again and probably end up divorced this time around.

[bewbilicious]

Dude you almost got divorced over the game. Why on earth would you want to come back? You're going to just end up getting addicting again and probably end up divorced this time around.

I want to come back simply because I am tired of watching shows the poster above you listed lol. I need something to do other than work/pay the bills. I am the only one that works, she sits at home and keeps it clean while I do so. She has her tv, I need my games =)

[Deleted]

I played WoW up until a week or some before Cataclysm was released, but sadly during my "wow career" I became extremely addicted to the entire raiding scene and as a result nearly ended up divorced. I recently have had a HUGE want to come back to the game and try out Cataclysm and try to easy back into raiding (Keeping it casual, maybe 2 days a week). I have tried to approach the whole ordeal with my wife but frankly she wants nothing to do with the discussion. I was curious if anyone else has been in this situation and if anyone could give me advice to show her I am going to be able to keep it in check and not let it come between us again. I can see where she is coming from but yeah, I need help so I can come back to my "stress reliever"

Thanks in advance.

My closest friend was in the same situation in classic, his (now) wife convinced him to stop and it took him 5 years before she was settled enough to let him back into the game after I reignited his passion for the game. Mind you, we're only PvP'ing, raiding is still a big no-no.
As to you, if WoW is still such a sore spot in your relationship, don't even think about starting again.

[A Challenger!]

wow didn't kill anything. people killed things with their addiction and weakness. take everything in moderation and everything gonna be ALRIGHT

I- Are you serious? I wasn't being literal. WoW is obviously the tool, I didn't think I had to be ultra specific with my meanings. Regardless, I still cannot believe people have this much dedication to a game of all things.

[Deleted]

Get her addicted to the game ^^ make her understand why u like the game so much and maybe only maybe she might come back with u or get a new troll hubby