I can't get her out of my head :(

[antigravitydogs]

This girl, who is literally the most beautiful person I've seen in my life, has been in my head for weeks and its driving me crazy. I went to prom with her, and that only made it worse :\. For reasons I dont want to mention, I cant go out with her. I have to see her every day, and I'm starting to feel depressed. Any tips on getting through this? Any help is appreciated

[obdigore]

Puppy love.

You get over it.

If it was more than that there wouldn't be any 'reasons' you can't see her. Welcome to being an Adult.

[Gephyrophobia]

The time has come to make a choice, Mr. Anderson. Either you choose to be at your desk on time from this day forth, or you choose to find yourself another job.

[hq78]

this song suits your situation pretty good.

enjoy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQ3uDVOKHDM

[LocNess]

Kinda odd you can't mention why, but whatever. Things to do:

A) Move
B) Avoid looking at her/seeing her/being around her
C) Date somebody else, usually one girl will quickly get you over the last
D) Wait it out
E) Eat food until you become grotesque like Jabba the Hutt, ask her out, when she gives you a disgusted look and says no (unless she likes the look, then you win), get super mad at her, hate her existence, and binge on more food.
F) All of the Above

[proteen]

You went to prom with her, so ask her if she wants to hang out sometime (such as go to a movie with a group of friends or just you two, or any other group date scenario).
If for some ungodly reason you really cannot date her (ie - she's your cousin, awkward.) then as the above user posted, its puppy love and you'll get over it. You'll be able to look back and say, "why was I so wrapped up in that girl in the first place?"

[Deleted]

Just ask her out dude! You're afraid she might say no, and that would crush your hopes..but hope is for poosies! What's the worse that could happen?

[bendak]

You will barely be able to recall her face in 5 years. As someone else said... puppy love. People move on, you're no exception.

[DeadNotSleeping]

i myself am voting for more context, why cant you date her?

but really if you are so wrapped up in her and dating her is impossible, not much you can do except get over it, yes easier said than done, but this is where hobbies come in, or another girl

[KCguy]

If you can't ask her out, then tell her how you feel. If you feel it'll make things uncomfortable or bad, well then grow a pair and get over it. You're still a kid. You'll grow up and realize when you look back that you should have gone for it if you had the chance or just gotten over it if you had no choice. The best way to get over something is distract yourself. It'll take some time, but everyone eventually moves on and gets over it.

[Mormolyce]

For reasons I dont want to mention, I cant go out with her.

Since this appears to be the source of your problem I doubt anyone can help you without knowing what it is.

[sugarlily]

Agree on the fact that we need more info, especially re; why you can't date her.

You were "allowed" to take her to prom, though? Hmm. Confusing for those of us who'd like to offer advice & help.

In the meantime, just b/c she's so beautiful doesn't fulfill all the necessary personality traits to make her a good partner for you. Although it seems to be pretty easy for ppl to get way too wrapped up in appearances & therefore allow for all kinds of shit you normally wouldn't put up with or accept if it weren't for their lovely looks. It's the reason so often good looking ppl are spoiled ass rotten jerkfaces.

Also, since you aren't "allowed" to be with her, how well do you really know her? The fact that you can't have her adds to her mystique & appeal as well. "I want what I can't have!"

Without further info, here's what I see;
You have built her up in your mind to be some wonderful perfect girl if only...fill-in-the-blank.
She most likely isn't that girl in your head. Stop letting yourself imagine that she is SO much more than she ACTUALLY REALLY is. Stop & really think, you know its probably the truth. You see her physical beauty & have spent a minimal amount of time with her, & anybody can come off as perfectly sweet when you see them under ideal circumstances during a happy event. What is she like pissed off? What is she like when she's in a jealous rage, or throwing up or arguing with her parents/friends/whoever?

You really don't know her as well as you think you do. You are filling in the blanks with your own personal dream girl ideas & assuming she is all these wonderful things & equal to your thoughts.

Until you provide further info, I don't know how else to help you out.
Anyway, here is the list I live by ~ it'll help you too! <3
1.) Never date anyone you wouldn't have as a best friend.
2.) Tolerated behavior doesn't change.
3.) We teach people how to treat us.
4.) We get what we settle for.

[Clevername]

You'll grow up and move on. I don't mean to belittle your feelings (I'm sure it feels like it's the end of the world) but seriously at that age most really don't know what love really is.

[Deleted]

For reasons I dont want to mention, I cant go out with her.

Yeah, we're gonna need to hear those reasons. They could be important.
Also, if she went to the prom with you, she might be up for more.
Do something about it or forget it. It's no use dwelling on it.

[Linaver]

I think it's obvious she has a bf. Let me take a wild stab, is she dating your best friend/brother?

Anyway, thinking about her won't help, but it's not like you'll stop either. In time it will pass but for you it will seem like a mighty long time. So uhm, no magic remedy, if you have some activity you really really enjoy (eg a sport) then go and do that every chance you get, keep your mind occupied with other things all the time. You'll look back and wonder what the hell was wrong with you.

Also, eat a cookie. I feel like you should eat a cookie. Wait, that might be me, I might want a cookie. I shall investigate further.

[Rork]

For reasons I dont want to mention, I cant go out with her.

Just spit it dude, if you want help you'll have to tell us, I don't see any valid reason not to ask a girl out if you like her, except maybe if it's your sister :/.

[Deleted]

For reasons I dont want to mention, I cant go out with her.

Restraining orders have that effect, indeed...

More on-topic: Get over her and over yourself. You will be fine.
To quote both the people above and Charlie Harper: Puppy love. *woof*

[vep]

I, or we, can tell you what you should do. But that won't change what you will do.

So what you will do is suffer. Suffer tremendously. And that's quite alright for, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? So, what ever you do, it will turn out well in the end.

[Starborn91]

I know what I'm going to say is not as easy as it sounds but, Never live for someone else. Be happy with yourself and if you come across a girl that likes you for you and it works out then thats great. Keep your head up and keep living life.

[vetinari]

Fuck ten other women.

By then you'll probably realise that any one woman aint that special, that you need to agonise over her for weeks. Plus, the experience will get you the confidence to pursue any woman that interests you, and with sufficient outcome independence that you won't become a crippled wreck when you try to seduce her.