It's been almost 4 weeks since me and my fiancé broke up. I've tried to right my wrongs, find my flaws, promised myself to change etc. Yes it is heartbreaking. Yes you will feel like you are dead inside. You'll wish to just disappear completely but keep in mind that time really helps. NEVER go through a break up alone. I reached out to my mom who was living almost 700km away and she was here in the morning, right after breakup. Someone really close to you who has "objective" point of view on matters is really going to help you.
You may have made mistakes or you may have changed somehow due to a really retarded reason but they DON'T matter anymore ! You should accept the fact that it's over and you won't have same relationship again. Without blaming yourself, be sincere and find what has changed in time. Remember what you were like when you two started dating. He fell in love with that person and that was you. Find out what has changed. Were they positive or negative? If negative, take this time to fix them. Were you overly attached girlfriend? Did you have trust issues? Were you clingy? Find what's the reason and try to forgive your past or w/e causing them. I know these are not the suggestions you want to hear but keep reading ! Remember, this grief time is for yourself. Doesn't matter if you wanna just get back together with him or not. Do not think about his wrongs. Maybe he was the crazy one but doesn't matter. HE IS GONE and it is time to look out for yourself.
Socialize, surround yourself with really close friends and family members. Most importantly, discuss. Discuss about yourself. Don't talk about him or how you two were great in bed or how that trip to beach felt great. You'll talk about them alot anyway. But try to keep those memories away when you can have proper conversations with close friends/family. Cry ! If you feel like crying, you should. Don't repress your feelings, ever ! Start dancing, learn how to play an instrument. Remember, idle mind is devil's playground. If you just stand there, doing nothing, you will never have the chance to start over with that guy, if that's what you want. I know most of these suggestions sound like rubbish to you but hey, I wanted to die when she said we should break up. I felt like my whole body was about to shut down. I just wanted to disappear. But don't worry, they'll fade. I miss her, I dream about her, I still pray for her to not lose her love for me (Funny enough, I consider myself a Deist but when it comes to love, everything stops to make sense and you just want to get her/him back or move on as quickly as you can.) but now these feelings aren't holding me back from doing my daily routine. Just let yourself grieve, cry, shout and sleep.
Meanwhile keep motivating yourself about how it's going to be just fine. After some time you'll come to terms with the saying. " If it's meant to be, it will be. " And here is the most important part. If you guys ever get back together, never try to fix your broken relationship. It's gone, broken, done ! Treat your second chance as a new relationship and don't do the same mistakes, both of you.
Peace out !