So. i've been with my girlfriend for a bit over two years.
when we met, i had just gotten out of my bad habbit of smoking weed every second day. i realised i was heading towards trouble, and i had only been smoking for 2-3 month back then, but i knew i had to stop before it got out of hand.
fast foward a few month, me and my girlfriend is hanging out with one of my good friends back then whom i used to smoke a lot with, and so we shared a joint. it was her first time back then, and even though i allowed her to try, i told her she shouldn't get used to it, as it was a one time thing.
fast foward an other year. i'm done working as a blacksmith, and joins the army. That took me 8 month, and i get home. me and the girlfriend have had some trouble during the time, because of the distance and me not being able to come home every weekend. but being done in the army, we now had time for eachother again, and i didn't feel like a lot had changed. we had fun like we used to, did a lot of the same things as we used to do.
now yesterday, she told me there was something she needed to tell me - she had been smoking weed for a year, the last 6 month on a daily basis, before school, after school and after work. so three times a day, most of the time.
and she knew i had made up my mind and didn't want anything to do with drug addicts of any kind. new years eve i even threw out a couple of people from my party because i found out they were smoking weed in my bathroom.
so we got into a fight, and i didn't really know what to do. I'm unable to talk any sence into her, i really want her to stop smoking that shit, but i just can't.
so eventually i gave up, shared a joint with her, and we had the best sex i've ever had. but while i know smoking once in a while can be fun, like it was for me, i still don't like her smoking every day..
edit:
she shouldn't get used to me and my friend providing her with it as we did that one time, not in general. i wouldn't care if she smoked it once a month, or week even, but going from nothing, to smoking 3+ times a day while i'm in the army, finding out after i get home, is kind of a shock for me.
i just care for her, and don't want her to get into trouble. she drives stoned, study stoned, even works stoned. if she can manage school and her work (she works in a local store, so she deals with other people all the time) that's fine. but the thought of her driving while stoned, getting stopped by the police or loose her job doesn't really amuse me.
i've done stupid things myself when i was at her age (i'm 21, she's 18). I spend 40k dollars in 6 month partying and drinking all the time, smoking weed (as she do now), and driving while affected by it, and showing up drunk at work. luckily the worst thing that happened for me was crashing into a tree while drifting, ruining my car. but i've changed a lot since then, and i just doesn't want her to get hurt.