Do you feel bad to spend your time gaming while in a relationship?

[DarlordsOfWraenor]

Whenever I get in a relationship I feel bad that I still spend my time gaming, like I should be doing more productive things like planning for ways to be rich in the future, working out even more, looking for nice places to take her out, NOT asking her to give me time to play video games.

I don't know, when you're 25, and you look at your woman and you tell her "honey, I need some me time so I can kill pixels in virtual worlds", I feel like a child. Like, the guy from Virgin Mobile is a billionaire and works his ass off, there's other men who've been my age who were starting businesses or grinding hard to become famous singers and such, and I'm there asking my girl to give me alone time to fight pixels.

If I was a millionaire myself with a good situation (duh) I wouldn't give a damn, but as a regular plebeian with a 8-5 job, a car and rent, it feels childish.

When I'm single though I don't give a shit, I game my ass of .

[Deletedaccount1]

never even kissed a girl before

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or talked to one, I'm 30 btw.

[Deleted]

Absolutely. I almost don't touch my pc when the missus is about. Applies to friends and family as well.

[Stonecloak]

Whenever I get in a relationship I feel bad that I still spend my time gaming, like I should be doing more productive things like planning for ways to be rich in the future, working out even more, looking for nice places to take her out, NOT asking her to give me time to play video games.

I don't know, when you're 25, and you look at your woman and you tell her "honey, I need some me time so I can kill pixels in virtual worlds", I feel like a child. Like, the guy from Virgin Mobile is a billionaire and works his ass off, there's other men who've been my age who were starting businesses or grinding hard to become famous singers and shit, and I'm there asking my girl to give me alone time to fight pixels.

If I was a millionaire myself with a good situation (duh) I wouldn't give a shit, but as a regular plebeian with a 8-5 job, a car and rent, it feels childish.

When I'm single though I don't give a shit, I game my ass of .

Just take care of your priorities first like career, and responsibilities. I don't believe in giving up hobbies because of a girlfriend.

[Faesroll]

Why should you feel bad spending time on something you enjoy? Just do it with moderation so your relationship doesn't break up because of it.

[Hyve]

No - Gaming is part of my life, if someone wants to be with me they need to accept that. It's vital to have a balance, and spending time with each other, but everyone knows that Monday & Thursday evening I'm raiding and I'm unavailable. End of story.

[Durgga]

My wife knew I was gamer when we were dating, she knows I'm a gamer now. Being honest is the best bet, if its a hobby for you and your "thing" it shouldn't be an issue. Just as long as raiding or whatever it is you do doesn't consume your time with her.

[Deleted]

Yes, unless she is a gamer too.

[Yunru]

Gaming is hobby. Its pretty much the same as for example... playing with cars or tools.

[Low Hanging Fruit]

My wife honestly is happy with my gaming. When I am not at work I am pretty much around the house and available to receive orders. I mean it does take some balance. When it is dinner time I go eat with her and the family. When we are doing something I have to do it for example. But all it really is that I am usually just in the other room gaming. It also has me spending a lot of time with my kids gaming.

Just have to have priorities. Sure sometimes she gets mad at me for gaming just because I mean.. no matter what you do.. when you live with someone they get mad at you for it eventually. But just keep the job straight, don't be a sloppy jack ass of a gaming stereo type, and don't ignore her completely and gaming and the relationship is fine. Not like I bitch at her about watching reality TV and chatting on the phone. Same difference.

[Independent voter]

You might be able to work out a compromise. Take on another household chore maybe. Or play when she has her friends over. It's easier to say than do but talk to her about it.

Have you tried getting her to play?

[Jokerfiend]

Whenever I get in a relationship I feel bad that I still spend my time gaming, like I should be doing more productive things like planning for ways to be rich in the future, working out even more, looking for nice places to take her out, NOT asking her to give me time to play video games.

I don't know, when you're 25, and you look at your woman and you tell her "honey, I need some me time so I can kill pixels in virtual worlds", I feel like a child. Like, the guy from Virgin Mobile is a billionaire and works his ass off, there's other men who've been my age who were starting businesses or grinding hard to become famous singers and such, and I'm there asking my girl to give me alone time to fight pixels.

If I was a millionaire myself with a good situation (duh) I wouldn't give a damn, but as a regular plebeian with a 8-5 job, a car and rent, it feels childish.

When I'm single though I don't give a shit, I game my ass of .

Would you feel bad if it was a car, painting, hiking or any other activity?

Quite frankly, YOU feel guilty about it, YOU feel it's childish. Then just stop. If you're looking for justification in continuing your hobby, you ain't going to find it here.

My guess, is you recently got a SO that is more outgoing and social. MAYBE, your SO kinda scoffed at you playing video games in your free time. Then MAYBE, they are right, so you feel guilty.

No one should make you feel guilty for being who you are and doing what you like to do. As long as it doesn't hinder your obligations; then fuck the people that say otherwise. We all COULD perhaps do more. Anytime you enjoy doing something isn't a waste of time. Again, as long as it doesn't interfere with obligations.

[A Chozo]

Nah she play games too. It's like a trip to the park for us when we play, let's say, Mario Kart 8.

Sometimes only one stays on the PC while the other watches TV/Sleeps/Etc. Of course, I don't use all of my free time to play - Moderation is the key.

[Deleted]

Over 30 and never been in a relationship. I just don't feel like getting into one. Also none of the girls I met were compatible with my tastes, they're all like aliens or something.

[drwelfare]

Many years ago I had a woman, not that it will ever happen again.

She went out of town, while she was gone I spent time playing games and realized I enjoyed that more than dealing with her and her crap. It was over after that

[Asiel]

No - Gaming is part of my life, if someone wants to be with me they need to accept that. It's vital to have a balance, and spending time with each other, but everyone knows that Monday & Thursday evening I'm raiding and I'm unavailable. End of story.

This, only T-Th. Hell. I usually ask them if they want to try WoW for themselves. So far, not many have even bothered, but the one that did is still hooked on it and loves playing when she can afford the sub.

[Deleted]

The secret to a happy relationship is to give each other space, that includes alone time.

[tehpwner]

We play together and separately all the time, there is no issue for us. Most people would go insane trying to literally spend all your time together, especially if either or both of you are even a little introverted.

[shise]

You can either make gaming a part of your like for good and simply make time for it as you do for anythign else, or consider it a dark wwaste of time in the shadows and life in agony each time you log in.

Gaming is good, that is a fact. Then again, it is up to you hwo to do it.

[Wildtree]

Would you feel bad if it was a car, painting, hiking or any other activity?

Quite frankly, YOU feel guilty about it, YOU feel it's childish. Then just stop. If you're looking for justification in continuing your hobby, you ain't going to find it here.

My guess, is you recently got a SO that is more outgoing and social. MAYBE, your SO kinda scoffed at you playing video games in your free time. Then MAYBE, they are right, so you feel guilty.

No one should make you feel guilty for being who you are and doing what you like to do. As long as it doesn't hinder your obligations; then fuck the people that say otherwise. We all COULD perhaps do more. Anytime you enjoy doing something isn't a waste of time. Again, as long as it doesn't interfere with obligations.

That's very well said... Yet there's one question, or one condition....
A serious relationship is.... an obligation. Probably the most important obligation of all.

with a lighthearted approach.... you know you have a problem, when she's there.... in all her birth suit glory, just how the gods made her look for you, and you realize how that raid boss has more allure for you now than those perky tits of hers... That's the moment when you have a problem. And quite frankly, that's also the moment when you should consider mental help.... cause you must be outta your mind, letting them tits pass by.
You might not think that way, and that is cool.. But don't be surprised if one day, while you battle that epic fight against that epic raid boss, your neighbor fucks your SO just as epic...
lol