It's not the same at all. You should be able to tell people they're an idiot for being reckless, and that they could have avoided whatever happened to them if they'd followed common advice (if that's the case). There's idiots on both sides, but blaming someone for putting themselves in a certain situation is not the same as blaming them for the criminal act.
Like the ridiculous example by someone in a similar thread, that a woman should be able to walk around naked and alone without being blamed for anything if she's raped. She should not be blamed for the rape itself, but she should absolutely be blaming for being a complete idiot and putting herself knowingly in a dangerous situation.