3 Stikes:Why boys vanish after the third date.

[THE Bigzoman]

Allright, let's get off the usual feminism discussions and talk about dating dynamics.\

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life...vanish-after-a

The writers don't know any better.

It's a three strikes thing in most cases. If a woman doesn't put out in three dates, she's done. I cut my losses and move on to the next potential person.

1. If it doesn't happen in this timeframe, there is no chemistry.
2. Given how sex is viewed a lot better now, the whole "i'm not like that" doesn't fly for me. Not only is promiscuity a good thing, but non religious people who say this are full of shit. It's basically saying "i've done it for others, just not you". There's always that one guy that a girl has put out for in at least two dates guaranteed.

[Deleted]

Allright, let's get off the usual feminism discussions and talk about dating dynamics.

Making a prediction: before page 2, this will be about feminism and the patriarchy's role in dating dynamics.

Edit: Without reading this whole article (because I truly just CBA) - I'm assuming it's a woman complaining and not realising that when a guy vanishes after 3 dates, it's either because he was using you for sex and you put out (and it probably wasn't good enough to keep him interested), or you weren't putting out and he wanted to use you for sex so he's cutting his losses.

Personally it's not how I operate, but I have friends who are massive sluts who do this to women because all they want is a shag. And hey, women do it too. It's up to the individual, not everybody wants a relationship.

[THE Bigzoman]

Making a prediction: before page 2, this will be about feminism and the patriarchy's role in dating dynamics.

I would actually like to see how some women feel about this rule of thumb.

And older guys as well.

[Imnick]

Given how sex is viewed a lot better now, the whole "i'm not like that" doesn't fly for me. Not only is promiscuity a good thing, but non religious people who say this are full of shit. It's basically saying "i've done it for others, just not you". There's always that one guy that a girl has put out for in at least two dates guaranteed.

This is laughably wrong. You have a terribly warped view of sex and relationship dynamics.

[Deleted]

Making a prediction: before page 2, this will be about feminism and the patriarchy's role in dating dynamics.

Take cover, I can already hear the virgin legion stampeding into this thread..

[Jester Joe]

2. Given how sex is viewed a lot better now, the whole "i'm not like that" doesn't fly for me. Not only is promiscuity a good thing, but non religious people who say this are full of shit. It's basically saying "i've done it for others, just not you". There's always that one guy that a girl has put out for in at least two dates guaranteed.

I guess you haven't met the girls who refuse to even do anything for people after a year. There ain't no force on Earth that will make them put out in two dates.

[THE Bigzoman]

This is laughably wrong. You have a terribly warped view of sex and relationship dynamics.

How so?

10 char.

[madethisfor1post]

Take cover, I can already hear the virgin legion stampeding into this thread..

Are they gonna whiteknight feminism?

[THE Bigzoman]

I guess you haven't met the girls who refuse to even do anything for people after a year. There ain't no force on Earth that will make them put out in two dates.

There's a force that will sweep them.

Just need the right broom.

Plus, pursuing a woman for over a year? Nothing is worth that.

[Deleted]

Are they gonna whiteknight feminism?

Quite the opposite, actually.

[THE Bigzoman]

Eh? Fuck me or fuck off? Ain't you an entitled little cunt

and here we go.

God forbid I know what I want and am unwilling to waste time.

[Deleted]

If I consider someone as a potential partner, seeing them 3 times isn't anywhere close enough for me to have sex with them if I want it to be a relationship. I want to be sure they're not just there for the sex, thus waiting with it. Have had too many who have just gotten out of there once they've gotten to have sex.

Would be easier if the guys who just want to fuck you and then nothing more would say so from the start instead of trying to get you into almost a relationship just to have sex with you and then leave and you end up getting sad.

[Independent voter]

A good woman can do what she wants, everyone wants a good woman someone they can spend time with. Low self esteem types might fall for the 3 strikes thing.

The whole thing reeks of taking advantage of the weak.

[Kalis]

Take cover, I can already hear the virgin legion stampeding into this thread..

I think one of them started the thread, it doesn't sound like they have any real world experience.

[Jakexe]

I'm usually done by the first date or the relationship builds over a long period of time until we just kinda end up being together. Having some set time frame seems ridiculous. I'll put the amount of effort in that I think the women deserves. If it takes a long time then so be it. Sex isn't a huge deal for me, I've waited 4 months with a girl with no hassle. Sometimes a relationship is worth more than the sex.

The 22yr old me would slap me senseless for saying that.

[Medusa Cascade]

I don't "put out" until the 9th or 10th

[Imnick]

How so?

10 char.

You think most people will have sex with someone after only meeting them twice.
In fact, not just most people, you said "every girl, guaranteed".
That's just clearly ridiculous, 2 dates is an extremely low number for most people.

[Mihalik]

The article is dumb.

It tries to resume the lack of chemistry to a lack of sex. Basically reinforcing the idea that men are horndogs and if they won't call you it's not because you (the woman) did anything wrong, it's just he's a caveman who only cares about sex.

Is it sometimes because the lack of sex or poor quality sex? Yes. But again even in those cases it goes back to the lack of chemistry.

I try to not to "just drop off the map", but rather give a brief OBVIOUS excuse, like- Hey while we had some good times together currently I have some things going on which prevents me from being able to dedicate time to this. You're a great gal and I'm sure there's a guy out there for you.- End. But that's just me.

P.S

My current gf I met years ago. We dated for a while, never had sex as at the time there wasn't any chemistry there. We became friends, being good friends for like 3 years. Both had other relationships meanwhile. Now we've been together for nearly two years.

[-aiko-]

The 'three strike' rule makes no sense to me. Like, at all. I'm not going to 'put out' until I'm damn sure I like the person, and that takes more than 3 dates.

[Lord Pebbleton]

One should "put out" when he/she feels like it, with no silly restrictions.
Also never listen to society's standard and do your stuff with who you want, as long as he/she agrees.