"Bulging Biceps, Big Guns Advance Unhealthy Masculinity"

[Gamdwelf]

I really don't get the whole premise, to me it looks like this:
"Society tells you to be this way, don't be that way, be the way we tell you to."
It's repeatedly the same with the feminists.
I don't get why you would exchange one stupid pressure thingy for another. Can't you just be yourself?

Is anyone really themselves. Most people are shaped by external factors and experiences.

[Deleted]

There is a fine line. You dont want chronic complainers, but men who hold their emotions in all the time are just as frustrating to deal with. WOmen cant connect with men who are always stone faced.

You're my favourite mmo female avatar. I picture you as a slightly plump but voracious sex gerbil.

[Crissi]

You're my favourite mmo female avatar. I picture you as a slightly plump but voracious sex gerbil.

lol. Thanks...I think?

[Very Tired]

I really don't get the whole premise, to me it looks like this:
"Society tells you to be this way, don't be that way, be the way we tell you to."
It's repeatedly the same with the feminists.
I don't get why you would exchange one stupid pressure thingy for another. Can't you just be yourself?

I think the whole idea here is that it's ok to be whatever you want to, just don't come complaining when you can't get a date.

[Malachi256]

"Just be yourself" often just means "never have to get out of your comfort zone," which is very counterproductive to many different worthwhile human endeavors.

[Blayze]

There is a fine line. You dont want chronic complainers, but men who hold their emotions in all the time are just as frustrating to deal with. WOmen cant connect with men who are always stone faced.

I said "women don't want crybabies," not "women don't want men who are ever sad at all."

[Damajin]

People with gender studies degrees going to great lengths to justify all that time and money spent on them. Of course they'd like all guys to be Pajama Boy from a few years back, but we can't or won't.

[Total Crica]

I think the whole idea here is that it's ok to be whatever you want to, just don't come complaining when you can't get a date.

pretending you enjoy being someone that you really don't enjoy being in order to get dates is silly since you would have to pretend to enjoy it for the relationship to continue - who the heck wants to pretend to enjoy something THAT long?

[Gamdwelf]

pretending you enjoy being someone that you really don't enjoy being in order to get dates is silly since you would have to pretend to enjoy it for the relationship to continue - who the heck wants to pretend to enjoy something THAT long?

Idk man the drive to get laid is a serious motivator.

[Total Crica]

"Just be yourself" often just means "never have to get out of your comfort zone," which is very counterproductive to many different worthwhile human endeavors.

and how exactly is it worthwhile to pretend to enjoy being someone you dont enjoy being for the length of an intimate relationship with another human being?

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Idk man the drive to get laid is a serious motivator.

if getting laid is worth being unhappy the REST of the relationship, go ahead on with your masochistic self!

[Deleted]

Is anyone really themselves. Most people are shaped by external factors and experiences.

That's exactly what you are. Before that we are nothing. Ever heard the saying: "We are but the sum of our experiences."?

The more important question is: Why does "society" try to change people that "society" has created itself?

Eventually I don't care, I am not in this world to live up to someone elses expectations and they aren't in this world to live up to mine.

if getting laid is worth being unhappy the REST of the relationship, go on with your masochistic self!

Would you rather be miserable and alone or would you rather be married and wishing you were dead?

Something like that, yes?

[Scyclone]

So if you want to be a MAN you are not allowed to drink anything but cheap beer and you NEVER cry.

You are DAMN right! It is the only manly solution :P

(That said, I hate beer, but wouldn't mind a good scotch or whiskey about now, heh)

[Dug]

and how exactly is it worthwhile to pretend to enjoy being someone you dont enjoy being for the length of an intimate relationship with another human being?

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if getting laid is worth being unhappy the REST of the relationship, go ahead on with your masochistic self!

Fake it till you make it and all that. Plus maybe you do enjoy being that person, so long as its with the right person. Its a big dishonest for people to claim they never adjust the way they act when dating someone.

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You are DAMN right! It is the only manly solution :P

(That said, I hate beer, but wouldn't mind a good scotch or whiskey about now, heh)

Aw I'm not in your sig anymore. I'm hurt Scyclone :'(

[Total Crica]

Fake it till you make it and all that. Plus maybe you do enjoy being that person, so long as its with the right person. Its a big dishonest for people to claim they never adjust the way they act when dating someone.

adjusting the way you act is ok as long as YOU are ok with it, its the PRETENDING to be ok with it that is silly given the amount of time you would have to spend being unhappy

[Deleted]

Fake it till you make it and all that. Plus maybe you do enjoy being that person, so long as its with the right person. Its a big dishonest for people to claim they never adjust the way they act when dating someone.

Like actually getting dumber when dating a blonde girl because of your false preconceptions?

[Malachi256]

and how exactly is it worthwhile to pretend to enjoy being someone you dont enjoy being for the length of an intimate relationship with another human being?

If you're straight up lying to get laid, that's just stupid and wrong.

I'm talking more about a person being like, "I like being a lazy couch potato. This is just who I am."

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[Total Crica]

If you're straight up lying to get laid, that's just stupid and wrong.

I'm talking more about a person being like, "I like being a lazy couch potato. This is just who I am."

being lazy on their personal time is what some ppl enjoy and nothing wrong with that - my husband is lazy at home but not at work, not an issue at all

[Scyclone]

Fake it till you make it and all that. Plus maybe you do enjoy being that person, so long as its with the right person. Its a big dishonest for people to claim they never adjust the way they act when dating someone.

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Aw I'm not in your sig anymore. I'm hurt Scyclone :'(

It was a tough call between yours and Mall Security essentially claiming that Black People should be allowed to commit violent crimes lol. You are crazy, but you aren't THAT crazy :P

[Aeula]

No such thing as 'unhealthy' masculinity, quite the opposite actually.