Hey guys,
I was browsing around longreads.com (huge recommendation if you have some time to spare and want to read examples of good journalism) and came across a really good op-ed about consent and alcohol, written by a former alcoholic student who suffered blackouts multiple times and would end up in bed with someone she had no recollection off, exactly the type of case that is now being so thoroughly scrutenized.
http://www.texasmonthly.com/the-cult...?Src=longreads
With how much discussion has been going on in this forum about it I thought this was a really fair and balanced account without some of the rabid extremism that both sides on this issue display.
I know that this article is 8600 words long, so it might be a bit too much for some of the rampant cases of add on this forum, but I would urge everyone interested in a nuanced perspective to make an effort.
My opinion after having read it is mostly positive, with a few slight negatives.
Most notably is the fact that she talks around the main issue: just what exactly is a workable (policy) definition of affirmative consent (and therefore what rape is) when either of the parties are intoxicated:
''Whether this sounds like delicious freedom or reckless danger probably depends a lot on your own experience with these situations. But is such sex rape? I wouldn’t say so, but I’m aware other people disagree, and at the rate this conversation is shape-shifting, upturning old assumptions and placing them in a new light, I wouldn’t be surprised if I disagreed with me too somewhere down the line. One of the great luxuries of a free society is the ability to change your mind''
My second point is the fact that, while she does (shortly) adress the issue of preventative measures that women can take to avoid being raped and the recent backlash that there has been against people in favor of those, she doesn't address the main point in that narrative (imo): A woman isn't responsible for being raped if she is drunk/alone/dressed skimpy, however she could have taken steps to prevent the chance of it happening. This imo isn't victim blaming but more giving people a sense of agency when it comes to their own actions rather than passive victims.
Her main point is being summarized really well in the below (slightly long) quote:
''Consent and alcohol make tricky bedfellows. The reason I liked getting drunk was because it altered my consent: it changed what I would say yes to. Not just in the bedroom but in every room and corridor that led into the squinting light. Say yes to adventure, say yes to risk, say yes to karaoke and pool parties and arguments with men, say yes to a life without fear, even though such a life is never possible. Still, there is a point at which someone who has drunk too much cannot, legally, consent to sex. So what is that line, exactly? And if your partner has been drinking all night too, how can he or she detect it? For that matter, has your partner passed the point of consent too? ''
Before you jump to your respond buttons buttons and spout vitriol because you (dis)agree over a certain paragraph, please try to read the whole article first.
Comments within 20 minutes of this post arn't allowed