You just should realize, that PVP servers aren't about doing dailies/WQs. Dailies/WQs - are just bait there, just a reason to go out into the world. PVP servers are about ganking, asking friends/guild to help you against gankers, they ask their friends too and then just chaotic raid vs raid rumbling, that is called "WorldPVP". And everybody forgets about their initial goals, i.e. dailies/WQs. If such gameplay isn't for you and that dailies/WQs have higher priority for you, so you want to have control over your PVP status - then YOU SHOULD PLAY ON PVE SERVERS. There is no third option. You just can't be that guy, who want to kill others on his desire, but doesn't want to be killed on desire of others.