Lets rephrase this then.
If a "real" raider is in it mostly for the fun of the raid itself. Why bother to get all hot and bothered that 5 man instances also hand out a gear which is colored purple?
E peens are so one delineate to what degree of hardcore one is. It presumes that you have to be hardcore to even have an e peen to brag about. So only hardcore players care about the size of ones e peen. To anyone else that fact that a raider has managed to take down a boss five seconds quicker them some other hardcore raider had no meaning what so ever.
So the fact that you are worried about who gets what welfare epics and who has a bigger e peen then someone else tells me that you are already so hardcore it is doubtful that you can get your mind around the idea of casual.