Would you be in a relationship with someone that has HIV

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Because of this (older) thread about http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...ut-she-has-HIV
There were some people stating that quite a lot of people without HIV would still be with someone that has it.

Risk getting infected yourself for the sake of love (not saying thats a bad thing)
or would you just break it off when you found out because you don't want to risk getting infected with it?
I know today you can live fairly long with HIV but it isnt something you want to live with.

Wether its a first date or a longer relationship (without having had any sex )
What would you do?

I personally wouldnt want to get into it myself, because of the risk of infection. No matter how well you can live with it, if i can avoid getting it i'll try as hard as i can!

I'm am by no means saying all people with HIV are misrable ( incase some might read it that way )

[Blueobelisk]

I'd be out. See you sucker. Have a nice life.

[Deleted]

If it was a person I'd truly love from the bottom of my heart then yes I would. But I'd avoid even starting to date such a person since conceiving a child would bring too much issues and I want a child of my own with the woman I love.

[v2prwsmb45yhuq3wj23vpjk]

To be honest it really depends. If they were upfront about it and it wasn't going to be a serious complication, yes. If they weren't or it was going to cause a lot of medical issues, probably not. I wouldn't want to be with somebody who wouldn't be honest, nor would I want to commit to serious medical issues right out the gate. It's one thing to stand by somebody you've been with if they develop issues like cancer and it's quite another to jump right into that sort of thing.

[Deleted]

No, i wouldnt. I don't see how i could ever be in a relationship with someone that has HIV. i'd be paranoia when having sex, i don't think i could ever relax
as it scares the hell out of me. But yes it is as you say, you can live with HIV but i don't want to risk getting it

[Lyriok]

I woudn't.

Don't want to risk infection plus if I wanted a child I don't want it to be at a possible risk.

[Kalis]

How hard is it to catch HIV if you take reasonable precautions?

[StayTuned]

nope. could not be relaxed during sex. i know its safe if correctly done... but there is this barrier that i just cannot overcome. the risk of infaction is just too high.

No problem being best friends, though.

[Deleted]

How hard is it to catch HIV if you take reasonable precautions?

It might be really really hard, but there is still always that chance of getting it. it would still drive me crazy! as everything can go wrong, even if you're so careful.

[roflmfao]

Thats a tough question.

If I was single I wouldn't get togather with someone that had HIV, but since the HIV virus is something that can lay dormant for years I wouldn't leave the person I was with if they got sick from it.

[Deleted]

Thats a tough question.

If I was single I wouldn't get togather with someone that had HIV, but since the HIV virus is something that can lay dormant for years I wouldn't leave the person I was with if they got sick from it.

Though if its untreated you will get sick very fast, i don't think it can go unoticed for years. it would develop into AIDS?

[Deleted]

If I truly loved that person then it could be a possibility with the help of the medical profession. Take advice and precautions where necessary even if that involves withholding sexual intercourse. Love is more than sex you know.

[chadwix]

No chance, its not worth the risk.

[Deleted]

If the person was really special to me, yes.
The changes of getting that shit is so goddamn small even without using protection at all.

But I wouldn't even start dating or anything with a person that has it.

[Deleted]

If I truly loved that person then it could be a possibility with the help of the medical profession. Take advice and precautions where necessary even if that involves withholding sexual intercourse. Love is more than sex you know.

Thats said in a very nice way

[Giants41]

Nope. I wouldn't... Maybe if i was extremely in love with the girl but i doubt that would ever happen so i have to vote no. It just isn't worth it to me, HIV sucks.

[Deleted]

Maybe. If I loved her or something.

[Rend Blackhand]

No. It is a serious health risk, that's the bottom line.

[Flashforcash]

Very, very hard. Chances are something like 1 in 10,000 with unprotected sex, and that's intercourse. Other acts are around 1 in 100,000.

depends if you do oral or anal sex. Anal sex have a higher infection rate, since its more rough. Just like rough oral sex would have a higher infection chance.

Besides i really doubt those numbers are true, where do you ahve them from ?

About me, i wouldnt ever start a dating/relationship with a girl who have HIV, as other people have said, i wouldnt be able to relax around her.

[Tziva]

If I was already in an established relationship with someone I loved when they were diagnosed (assuming they didn't deceive me about it initially and were not unfaithful), I would probably stay with them. But I probably would not pursue a relationship initially if I just met someone positive while casually dating.

HIV is no longer a death sentence and people can and do live well into old age with medicinal management. The virus can be pushed to undetectable levels in the blood, making the risk for transmission very very low, especially when coupled with safe practices...

... but I don't want to take risks I don't have to take. It is still a life altering (and expensive) situation to be in and a partnership means shouldering that together. Not everyone is emotionally equipped to handle that. I have medical issues of my own to worry about. (and, on that same token, I wouldn't fault anyone who didn't want to deal with mine)