Hello,
The girl that I'm with is great. Personality, looks, and my parents adore her. Were friends for about 4 years before becoming official. We'd both text, call, and email each other. However, lately I've started noticing things about her; she mentioned that she doesn't call anymore because she wants to avoid being "clingy". So when I don't call her, if we dont talk, even when she knows she can call out and reach me, she doesn't to avoid that "clingy" label; that is the reason her previous boyfriend dumped her and she doesnt want to repeat that.
I've told her that I won't think anything like that if she wants to give me a call, but now if a day passes by without me calling her, she freaks out, wonders if I still like and care for her, etc. I do not MIND calling her daily as I love hearing her voice, but some days I just text due to my rigorous schedule (and she knows this). Now that she is with her family, we are physically about 800 miles from each other.
Today she said something to me that I don't quite know how to process. She said that she is not enjoying herself because I'm not with her. They are in Vegas for Christmas, and she has never been there. Her entire family (most of which she hasnt seen in AGES) will be there and I told her that while we aren't in each other's presence currently, that she should make best of the situation and that would help take some of her focus off of missing me. While I told her I missed her too, I mentioned that it was important to miss each other sometimes so that seeing each other will be that much better/sweeter when we see each other again.
I guess my question is.. can you be so emotionally connected to a guy that you feel sick when you are apart? Do you find yourself not having a good time when your significant other isn't around? This is my first girlfriend so I'm trying to be careful what I say/do while being as supportive as I can be.
Could use some PoVs/perspectives from both men and women here.
Thanks.