Girlfriend lives with a bunch of guys

[heltvild]

u know they will give her D sooner or later

[Glaziola]

I'd be pissed tbh, those saying you should trust her probably never had a gf before. Even if you do trust her, its just non-sense to accept that.

Exactly, this is a bit offtopic but my friend got smashed 2 nights ago and had sex with a drunk girl even though he has a serious girlfriend for couple of months. Don't girls like do the same? About OP's girlfriend, she might be loyal and not cheat but if she gets drunk who knows what she can do with 4 guys.
This is fact.

[Maxilian]

Wait, Rich already hit the nail on the head.

Rich always hit the nail on the head

[Itisamuh]

There's a difference between being cautiously trusting and being blindingly naive. I wouldn't ever be with a girl who lived with guys, and I wouldn't ever do that to a girlfriend either, living with other girls. Even if nothing happens, it just isn't proper. I can't believe people are accusing those of us who wouldn't like this setup as not deserving a partner. On the contrary, I'd say the one in the pairing that doesn't respect basic ground rules as the one who doesn't deserve that trust.

[tiporispit]

Living in an apartment is one thing. Partying is another. I've been with my girlfriend 10 years. I don't care if she hangs out with her ex-boyfriends. Getting drunk with them? No way in hell. Only a spineless, clueless twat would be okay with that. You want to get drunk with other guys and put yourself in an impaired, compromised situation in the name of fun? You're not done growing up. You're an ex-girlfriend. Plain and simple.

[Masochist]

Worry less about the things you can't do anything about.

Is the relationship worth it or not? I mean I do think it is kind of funny a question of trust is coming up over someone you probably just met. I wouldn't trust anyone I just met.

Just go with how you feel. That's what you're going to do anyway.

[Arewn]

I suppose the three posters above me[edit:first 3 posters, more people posted since I opened it] either aren't in relationships, or have been happily married for several years.
Yes, you have every reason to feel uncomfortable, your girlfriend and the guys she lives with are presumably human after all and as such subject to temptation and mistakes. Just make sure you don't let that discomfort control you, getting paranoid and obsessive is just going to push your girlfriend away from you.
I would also suggestion trying to get to know those guys, as they will have more respect for someone they've actually met then "a faceless guy who is in the way of me going out with the chic I room with".

[NoRest4Wicked]

Exactly, this is a bit offtopic but my friend got smashed 2 nights ago and had sex with a drunk girl even though he has a serious girlfriend for couple of months. Don't girls like do the same? About OP's girlfriend, she might be loyal and not cheat but if she gets drunk who knows what she can do with 4 guys.
This is fact.

Lol. Guess people have different opinions on serious relationships. Using the drunk card for cheating is just that, making an excuse.

[Sliske]

I'd be pissed tbh, those saying you should trust her probably never had a gf before. Even if you do trust her, its just non-sense to accept that.

This.

Its not that i'd think she was suddenly going to have an affair, its the fact that those guys are probably going to attempt to flirt with her or chat her up. Even if she resists, which she does, i've seen it, i'm still pissed that they try it knowing shes 'taken' anyway.

[Capitan]

A better question to ask:

Why is she even living with guys. This makes me think she has no girlfriends she can live with.

Simple fact: Girls who can't make friends with other girls are usually a crazy bitch. Think about it, she is so bad that her own kind doesn't even like her...

Get rid of her.

[Deleted]

Our lesson today is that we should never, never ever trust our significant other?

[saucywench]

I'd be pissed tbh, those saying you should trust her probably never had a gf before. Even if you do trust her, its just non-sense to accept that.

And if the situation was reversed and he was living with 4 girls, would anyone here be complaining? Its fine, she sounds like shes in control of her life, contrary to popular belief men and women can live and work together without getting horizontal. Has she ever given you a reason to doubt her loyality? If not then the OP is the one with the trust issues

[Deleted]

I'd be pissed tbh, those saying you should trust her probably never had a gf before. Even if you do trust her, its just non-sense to accept that.

Yeah most people here have probably been in mature relationships where this sort of thing would not be an issue at all. but kudos for trying to sound adult with the reaction of a 16 year old.

[Dald]

Imagine if you will, 2 to form the spit, with her being the roast and the other 2 basting that roast.

[Sliske]

Better to keep her in a cage 'eh?

Its not that you think it will happen, its that you'd feel safer and more comfortable with it not being able to happen. However since the previous sentence is completely based on paranoid feelings you shouldn't really do anything to combat paranoid feelings other than just look at them for what they are. I occassionally have this problem and i've been with my GF for 3 years now.

The second you start giving in to paranoid feelings and doing stuff like restricting her then you're just gonna piss her off and make her feel suffocated

[Odina]

Shes living with 4 guys that she is basically with whenever she is home yet chose to be in a relationship with you that is far...

They have no shot she would have chosen one of them before a harder relatioship with you!

Now stop being an insecure manbaby about it and just man up! you either trust her and her judgement (do you think shes dumb enough to live with guys she thinks will spycam her showers?) and stop adding stress to your relationship for no reason! Insecure BF's who keep adding pressure and stress to a relationship is why girls end up brining "that other guy" home because they don't want to deal with the BS from the BF anymore and get swept off there feet by mr secure who could care less who she lives with so long as he's who she sleeps with!

DONT be that guy!

[Masochist]

Our lesson today is that we should never, never ever trust our significant other?

i dont think someone you just met last month can be your "significant other" unless you want to be married by the time you're 22

[Stir]

There's a difference between being cautiously trusting and being blindingly naive. I wouldn't ever be with a girl who lived with guys, and I wouldn't ever do that to a girlfriend either, living with other girls. Even if nothing happens, it just isn't proper. I can't believe people are accusing those of us who wouldn't like this setup as not deserving a partner. On the contrary, I'd say the one in the pairing that doesn't respect basic ground rules as the one who doesn't deserve that trust.

If you trust someone, then you do not need those 'basic ground rules.' Rules are for people you do NOT trust.

[Sliske]

A better question to ask:

Why is she even living with guys. This makes me think she has no girlfriends she can live with.

Simple fact: Girls who can't make friends with other girls are usually a crazy bitch. Think about it, she is so bad that her own kind doesn't even like her...

Get rid of her.

This is like the relationship equivalent to 'half life 3 confirmed' meme. in 4 lines you drew the conclusion that shes a crazy bitch and that females who don't live with females are instantly crazy and an outcast of their gender

Woah.

[MrPaladinGuy]

If you trust her this thread wouldn't exist.