Relationships in MMOs

[Deleted]

Hey there!
This is my first post so I thought I'd try and start a discussion as I'm really interested in social issues within MMOs.
Has anyone ever had a relationship in-game? Did you meet up with them? Did it work out?

Izz

[Whidbey]

Tons of posts on this BTW.. but since youre new here.
Yes I met my fiance in WoW and she moved across the country to be with me, were getting married when she finishes her BA degree. So yes it worked out so far,as we have known each other 3 years, 2 of which we have been together in person.

[saintsixx]

I've had two - one of them he moved in with me for a couple of months but things didn't work out between us and he moved out.
The other one we were together for around a year and a half, him in Holland and me in England. The distance wasn't so much the problem, but things changed between us and personal things got in the way.
I don't frown upon online relationships at all - and I think if you like that person and want to be with them, good luck to you.
I just warn people to be careful if they're going to be meeting up with someone they've never met before - I always took a friend or my mum.

[Deleted]

Nope, never, But I have noticed that raiding guilds in which spouses are guild Officers are usually pretty shit and full of drama. I quit my raid team recently because the GM gave away my spot as main tank to his undergeared wife (ilvl 495) and made me go DPS even though I despise the role and only had tank gear. She lasted 30 seconds into the pull before she died and everyone was blamed for it but her, I spoke to him about it after the guild and he told me that his wife would always come first.

[exou]

Nope, never, But I have noticed that raiding guilds in which spouses are guild Officers are usually pretty shit and full of drama. I quit my raid team recently because the GM gave away my spot as main tank to his undergeared wife (ilvl 495) and made me go DPS even though I despise the role and only had tank gear. She lasted 30 seconds into the pull before she died and everyone was blamed for it but her, I spoke to him about it after the guild and he told me that his wife would always come first.

Did he meet her online? Seems semi irrelevant.

Anywho, OT, yes. In fact, he's coming to visit me in a week. We've met several times, and our families have been involved from the start. My mom also met my stepdad in a MMO, and I have two little sisters now.

[Anyael]

I was propositioned for some romancing by a hormone-crazed teenager when he learned I lived nearby. I had to unfortunately give him the bad news that I was male, and that my character's gender does not necessarily reflect my gender.

He proceeded to rage at me in whisper, but I think it was because he secretly still wanted it.

[Deleted]

I ran into a very nice guy a couple months ago, we're meeting irl in a month from now! I'm super excited! I live in The Netherlands and he in the UK, but that's not a problem, plane tickets are cheap and it's fast

He applied to my guild a few months ago, the first thing I noticed was how we shared so many hobbies. We appeared to have much more in common and started chatting on facebook, later we shared phone numbers and now we're skyping every day and meeting up later too!

I do agree with rich here about officers having relationships. I'm a raid leader in my guild, but I won't put my bf above any raider during raids.

[Deleted]

Cheers for the replies guys! I was thinking about writing an article about this matter because of how interesting and unorthodox finding love in games really is.
I've never done it myself but I've heard of dozens of people who have met in-game.
Why do you think this happens so much?
I have my own theories such as having a huge hobby in common and people find that they can open up more because of the anonymity but I'd be really interested to know what you guys think

[Pejo]

Met my wife in-game 9 years ago, dated for 5 and a bit years before we married. We lived only a few hours away so that is why it worked. I wouldn't go with it happens a lot; however, you build relationships with these people online and I can see why anonymity may cause someone to open up more. I know that our fallback conversation in the beginning would be the game, so the hobby thing was definitely a catalyst and added strength. Once I learned more about her, the game became more background, but yea.

[Smitus]

I dated someone whom I met via the internet (not over WoW specifically) who lived ~7 hours away.
It worked for about 6 months (we had ~week long stays at each others residence 4 times in that period) and it worked well.
The main reason for the relationship ending was our age (19 and 17) and other factors, but I do not believe it was the distance

[Omertocracy]

Has anyone ever had a relationship in-game? Did you meet up with them? Did it work out?

Yes. Yes. Very no.

Twice.

[saintsixx]

I ran into a very nice guy a couple months ago, we're meeting irl in a month from now! I'm super excited! I live in The Netherlands and he in the UK, but that's not a problem, plane tickets are cheap and it's fast
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Been there and done that, but the opposite way - he was in NL . It is very cheap, especially if you book more than a month advance (we didn't haha, still only £100 a return!), and it is fast. Although that depends where he/you live, as it took around 5 - 6 hours of travelling either way for us, but that was basically because of trains to airport and the waiting

[Pony Soldier]

Nope and knowing my luck I probably never will, a successful one at least. I actually prefer meeting someone in real life rather than online but I'm open to try out an online relationship as long we get to actually meet each other at some point. Also it probably wouldn't work out if we didn't see any pictures of ourselves so I would need some pics or it won't happen.

[Wildberry]

You know... Call me old fashioned but that seems like a horrible idea with some potentially unsavory consequences. I'm sure there are some success stories out there, but everything I've heard off has just been laughable and cringe worthy.

[Veceva]

Has anyone ever had a relationship in-game? Did you meet up with them? Did it work out?

Yes, no, NOPE. Twice. Never again.

[Deleted]

Does roleplaying relationships count?

[Firebert]

I met my other half in WoW. Went to see her because her PC broke. We just had our four-year anniversary.

[ablib]

I've never understood how desperate one has to be to take the chance at an online relationship.

Warning, please don't insult people. Some have found their luck through it, there's nothing about being desperate.

[Kaykay]

Does roleplaying relationships count?

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[tss]

Tons of posts on this BTW.. but since youre new here.
Yes I met my fiance in WoW and she moved across the country to be with me, were getting married when she finishes her BA degree. So yes it worked out so far,as we have known each other 3 years, 2 of which we have been together in person.

This is what people should think of when the topic is brought up. This kind of thing is awesome and wonderful. Not some silly childish online-only "relationship". If you call them your SO but have never been with each other in person any significant amount of time nor plan to, then you're delusional at best...