This topic, this OP. Lmfao.
Postin' in bait threads in 2kalmost18
This topic, this OP. Lmfao.
Postin' in bait threads in 2kalmost18
Best way to get a lady.
Be yourself
Remember she owes you nothing(no matter what you do) so never expect anything from her.
Be your TRUE self!
Being "nice" is a quality most men have(you're nothing special by saying this)
Don't be a doormat, show her your time is valuable(if you've got nothing better to do with your life then case her then find something to do with your life to make you worth chasing)
Enjoy life, live for yourself. The ladies will come to you.
You're going to the gym, good for you. make friends with the most obnoxious douche bags there and go out drinking with them, they'll hook you up with one night stands which can build confidence(just don't become one of them, mind your manners)
Get some practice at the bar scene making small talk, have some one night stands(you're still at the party age of your life live it up) most people don't start wanting to settle down till they're 26-mid 30's(this especially goes for the ladies).
Don't try to date the ladies you pick up at a bar, they're there for 1 thing, to have fun.
Try dating apps, get more one night stands. Who knows maybe it will be more but don't push for it, again your time is valuable and you're not a doormat.
After you can comfortably talk to the ladies, get them in bed on the regular, gain confidence in yourself, and gain self worth you've upped your chances at finding someone 1000%
Start going to events that interest you(see someone there make small talk, this scene is nearly like a bar but common interests can create a spark to up your chances at finding a relationship)
Trust me, I am far below average in terms of looks. I am not afraid of putting a picture of my on here just to prove it to you. My genetics are not good.
You're saying its likely I'll need to wait until my 30s? I...I've never even experienced anything sort of intimate with a female. By the time I'm in my 30s, it will be extremely weird for her because she would have most likely been in multiple relationships and I won't know what to do. That's another ten YEARS of staying alone
Well you are right, I did skip the uninteresting ones. I mainly want a relationship...I don't think I'm shallow but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone I'm not physically attracted to. I think I see what you're getting at here; it IS mainly my looks in the end
I get what you are saying and it makes sense but I'm not sure if I can do that. My siblings are all female and I was raised the opposite. I'm not sure if I can do such a drastic personality switch
It will happen when I least expect it? So I shouldn't approach anyone? If I don't do that, I will get nothing because we men have to initiate everything. If I don't do that, I will literally be alone for even longer
TBQH, this post sounds like a bait.
This bit is hilarious also. Work is the best place to look for a partner if you want A LOT OF drama in your life. When you break up, your workplace will become extremely awkward and/or even hostile environment.
You're desperate, women prob see it too, just like we see it here. There's people who like seeing this trait in potential partners, sure, but majority doesn't.
Also, why are you so fixated on marriage and longterm stuff? Have fun! I'm 28yo and divorced, there's no need to rush.
Simply being nice doesn't set you apart from anyone else, that is the expected mode of behavior. Nice guys don't finish last, boring guys do. Women can sense desperation and loneliness, and they don't want anything to do with it. Work on your self, and by that I mean be a more exciting person. Be fun, be adventurous, and be spontaneous.... even if you are doing it alone.
Edit:
Going by this guys posting history, not only is this bait, but it's clear he's an asshole. Writing a thread about how much you hate homosexual people is a clear sign that you are lacking in quite a few social skills.
Last edited by Machismo; 2017-12-24 at 11:22 AM.
No, it's not your looks, it's your attitude. Anyone can see right through it. You are not treating women as equals, while thinking you are owed chances whenever you see fit. Going as far, again, as calling other peoples relationships "excuses" to not give you the chance you feel is owed.
The best advice you'll get is the following: Me, any other woman in the thread, or anywhere else don't owe you anything at all. Understand this, and your dating prospects will improve.
Just like no man inherently owes me anything. It's simple.
They do. There's however a crucial difference between plainly being pleasant to interact with, and being a self labelled "nice guy" in behaviour and expectations.
People do not owe you dates and so on just cause of being polite. Workplace dating being a bad idea and all that too.
Dont expect your mom say things like ,,women want to be fucked etc". I was born among women too. They say what needs to be said but not what they truly desire.
Heck, maybe most women never grow up?
Women are different, some never reach healthy sexuality perhaps, being stuck in their shyness etc.
This part caught my attention because it reminds me of a mate of mine who has a policy of "A girl should never walk home alone, period" and thereby always insists on walking every girl he knows home, even if he has zero romantic intentions. Sometimes to the other side of town. Regardless of her saying that it's not necessary. Or if he barely knows her. See what I'm getting at? Sometimes a genuinely nice act backfires and comes off as creepy. Not to say you shouldn't walk a girl home of course, just not when she clearly doesn't want you to.
Also, why are you expecting something in return (other than a thank you)? If you're a genuinely nice guy, you do nice things because it's second nature to you and you don't expect anything in return. But if you're faking niceness as a ploy to get women, you're gonna have a bad time.
This one is obvious - no girl wants to be a second/third/fourth/last choice. So you can't be surprised that a girl won't go out with you because you only asked her because her hot(ter) friend rejected you. Also, work is terrible for dating, for obvious reasons. You have a good idea with the common interest approach, but try it outside of work.
That doesn't sound like confidence to me. It sounds like trying to fake confidence, which tends to be painfully obvious and has the opposite effect. Your whole story sounds like an insecure guy trying to fake being confident by ticking boxes on a checklist. That's not how it works. If you're insecure/shy, that's fine, a lot of people are, men and women both. Try to find a situation/setting where you feel comfortable and then approach girls, you'll have a much better chance of getting a date.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that the women you "deem attractive" are way out of your league. Take note that women as a general rule always date up on the social ladder (because they can get away with it) so you need to go after women that are below you in terms of looks.
The virgin looser ALWAYS seem to fall in love with the prettiest girl in the room then get surprised when he gets shot down hard. The pretty girl is dating Chad, the quarterback straight A student. The workplace equivalent of Chad, ain't you.
What i'm going to say is harsh - wish I had been told it in my early 20's so hoping you view it as something to grow from (late 20's married now if interested)
What ive highlighted above - nice guys do this without an expectation of anything in return.
You're not a nice guy or at least no more than anyone else. You're the same as every other guy out there except so don't think women owe you anything. Looks, fortunately for guys, matters very little in the long run.
Looking for a 1-night stand type situation? Then badluck on the looks. Otherwise, you'll be ok.
What you're probably missing is the ability to create a spark of connection between yourself and someone else. At this stage seems like you're asking EVERYONE out on a date.
Recommend 2 courses of action:
1. Go and talk to women in your family about when they fell for the other men in your family. Your mum is your best bet. Get them to explain the feeling, emotion and experience.
2. Go read some books on how the women brain works so that you can better understand how you're going to a) create a spark and b) take action on that spark
Last edited by Bronan; 2017-12-24 at 11:23 AM.
Be yourself
Widen your perspective by meeting women outside of your current social circles and work (going out, doing sports, traveling, dating apps)
Take good care of yourself
Don't be afraid to take initiative, do not rush or force anything
If things develop, go with the flow
Listen to what she is saying, bringing parts of that up when it is relevant will be appreciated
Hobbies, Humor, and punctuality (better be a bit early, like 5min or so) will be helpful traits
Adjust your game to where you are and who you are with, no one likes a 1 trick pony, if you used the same opener on other dates at that place or on dating app matches in the area, it can work against you to repeat it many times with other dates/matches. Likewise it isn't helpful to send a puppy or kitten picture to her if you know she is afraid of animals.
I know you nerds like to believe you have the monopoly on brains but just because you're socially awkward and read a lot of stuff on the Internet doesn't mean you're smart.
Most people are as smart as you AND also successful in other avenues of life. Tough pill to swallow.