Originally Posted by
unbound
Well, there is quite a mix here.
Overall, dating preferences aren't necessarily bad; after all, you do want to be with someone you are compatible with. And what you've actually constructed is a strawman argument here anyways. I haven't seen anyone say you shouldn't have *any* dating preferences, just that you shouldn't be shallow.
In some cases, people have unrealistic expectations (I know a few people whose preferences will simply never be satisfied).
For your specific examples:
- If you don't want to date a fat girl, you might be missing out on something...especially since the vast majority of guys say that, but aren't exactly in prime condition themselves (back to unrealistic expectations). And, if you are looking for something long term, weight really should be lower on your priority list.
- If you don't want to date someone because they don't have a lot of money, you have to ask yourself why. Are you expecting someone else to do all the work while you have a fun life? If so, then you are indeed a gold digger. Are you simply looking for someone that can be part of a sustained relationship? If so, then there isn't anything really wrong with that.
- If you don't want to date someone because of their height...well, then you are shallow. Sorry to break that news to you; there just isn't any realistic justification for that stance.
- If you don't want to date someone because of their race...well, then you are racist. Sorry to break that news to you.