I guess I mean Ukraine should be allowed to escalate the situation on their own terms. Did they ask for the tanks of was NATO like 'here you tanks now go play'?
Going along with my earlier analogy, it's the difference between the person being bullied coming to you saying "give me a knife I need to cut this fool" vs you giving them a knife they don't know how to use out of the then announcing it to the bully, so now the bully knows to bring a knife to the next fight.
Russia doesn't have the power to force Ukraine into submission but they still have enough for brutal retaliatory strikes. Did Ukraine say they were ready for that action or did NATO kind of put the knife their hands?