Originally Posted by
Sy
oh, of course, i absolutely agree. which is why, as a dom, beeing able to completely trust your sub (to know and, even more importantly, communicate their own boundaries) is just as important as the other way round. i dare say the fear of it going too far when you can't completely trust the other is, generally, at least just as big for the dom as for the sub.
still, while acting inside those boundaries, the dom does not only have the right to command, but also the ability to decide upon how the the game is played, possibly in ways that surprise the sub. it's at these times that trust is especially important, as the pre-set boundaries might not necessarily suffice anymore; but through this also that the dom gets to act on their real power, whereas the sub is still expected (even if obviously not obliged) to follow.
a lot of fulfillment for both sides can come from this kind of situations. that's why the dom, a good dom at least, is still the master ;]