Waiting until marriage for sex good or bad?

[sandmoth12]

I think a lot of people will say it's stupid, but I actually wish a would have waited. I have discovered that modesty has it's own reasons for existing.

[Reg]

You need to practice to be good once you're married. Or in my case not plan on getting married and just having short, non-trusting relationships.

[Rukentuts]

Depends on how much you value sex. The higher priority, the worse waiting would be.

[Powerogue]

What would be bad about it? Seems a big improvement over getting pregnant before marriage, then getting married to take care of the kid instead of any particular bond between the two individuals.

[Reeve]

Bad. Why would you want to tie yourself to another person forever without even knowing if you're going to be sexually compatible? It would be like marrying someone you'd never even spoken to before. You should definitely know that sex is at least not unpleasant before marrying the person.

[icedwarrior]

I wouldn't say it's necessarily a bad thing or a good thing, to be honest. If you're in a committed relationship, what's the difference between having sex now as opposed to having a different status and having sex? Conversely, I don't believe you should be having sex immediately, unless that's all the relationship is for.

[sandmoth12]

What would be bad about it? Seems a big improvement over getting pregnant before marriage, then getting married to take care of the kid instead of any particular bond between the two individuals.

Not really talking about having a kid just sex.

[Aftonflickan]

I'm very much against waiting until marriage, but that doesn't mean I condone the "OMG-YOLO-unprotected-sex" craze that seems to be sweeping many parts of the Western world...

[Rukentuts]

What would be bad about it? Seems a big improvement over getting pregnant before marriage, then getting married to take care of the kid instead of any particular bond between the two individuals.

Sexual compatibility is very important for many, if not most couples.

[Reg]

I'm very much against waiting until marriage, but that doesn't mean I condone the "OMG-YOLO-unprotected-sex" craze that seems to be sweeping many parts of the Western world...

YOLO is slut talk for "I do anal."

[Deadvolcanoes]

I guess it depends on the reasoning. If you're doing it because a really old book told you to do it, then its bad.

I really can't think of a good reason to wait, but I'm sure there's a few.

[Reeve]

I wouldn't say it's necessarily a bad thing or a good thing, to be honest. If you're in a committed relationship, what's the difference between having sex now as opposed to having a different status and having sex? Conversely, I don't believe you should be having sex immediately, unless that's all the relationship is for.

I've been with a woman who I thought was pretty fantastic. We were having a great time with each other, etc. Once we'd kissed, it was like, "Well, I guess we're going to be good friends." Sometimes people just aren't sexually compatible. I wouldn't want to be married to someone who would never be more than a friend to me.

[Lupinemancer]

I actually think it's the best course as well.
It will solve alot of problems, most ppl (mostly those who are addicted to it) will disaprove of this idea I know, But in the end it's the best course of action to be taken. I for one intends to wait until I get married (or at least is in a relationship that will hold), so that stuff like that would happen.

[Deleted]

I'd think it would be a problem for the marriage if it turns out you aren't sexually compatible.

At least, it's not an ideal situation at all. You could avoid that situation by not waiting. Personally, I don't have a problem with people who have one night stands, that's their business as long as they're all adults, but in a committed relationship I don't really see the benefit in waiting. It just elevates a part of human nature to a taboo and increases the expectations as well as sets you up for disappointment, because like most things you may need to work on it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it shouldn't (or can't) be special, but it's not exactly sacred either. It's part of getting to know each other, bonding and looking for similarities.

I'm also not sure what you mean by modesty.

[Deleted]

Personally, I think it's neither good nor bad - it's simply a personal choice.

[Reeve]

YOLO is slut talk for "I do anal."

"Ye Other Love Orifice?"

[Deleted]

Waiting and then having it turn into a major let down, or worse still you or your partner are not sexually compatible with each other and having it turn into a major relationship problem is not a good thing.
I see no reason to wait until your married, There is no medical reason why you should wait, only religion states you should wait.

so for me personally it is a bad idea for many many reason not just the ones I have listed above.

[Seezer]

I think a lot of people will say it's stupid, but I actually wish a would have waited. I have discovered that modesty has it's own reasons for existing.

Pointless. Marriage isn't a key to start fucking.

[Anjerith]

Do it when you are comfortable with it OP, the worst advice you can take is when people tell you "oh yeah, do it bro, do it today and everyday bro!". If you ruin your sexual lifestyle before it even gets started, that is on you forever. The chumps on the internet are the same as any chump that is peer pressuring you into something you very clearly don't want to do, otherwise why even ask?

[Deleted]

Bad, wouldn't want to be in a relationship where the sex sucks. I wouldn't stay in such a relationship.