My girlfriend and I both got tested before we started. She had 7 partners before so I really wanted her tested, I only had 1 but it wasn't a hassle to get tested so I did to ease her worries. I was 100% sure I was clean, and I was/am.
My girlfriend and I both got tested before we started. She had 7 partners before so I really wanted her tested, I only had 1 but it wasn't a hassle to get tested so I did to ease her worries. I was 100% sure I was clean, and I was/am.
mAN, HERE IS SOME ADVICE , get that chick checked. When I was in the army I took a chicks word for it and ended up0 with clymidya or however you spell it, man the quetip in the weiner to fix it was not great. Anyway, protip#1203497812471 if it seems to good to be true it probably is.
I've never been in a situation like this yet. My boyfriend and I have dated for almost four years, and we were both virgins at the time.
However, I think if I were ever put in the situation again, my own advice to myself would be to ask about it when things are at that time in the relationship. If it feels awkward or it seems like the other person is shy about being truthful (I don't know why you would still want to have sex if you think they're lying, though), make a date to both go get tested on the same day. Use condoms until you know.
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Condoms are 100% effective at stopping STDs or at least that's what I've "learned" via the responses in this thread.
Hmm after reading through this thread I think I need to start using condoms.... I'm 21 and have had 13 partners, rarely using condoms. If they tell me their clean I just always took their word for it since well condoms suck. Still clean so I think I should start playing it safer.
And even then, even if you're tested, there's a risk to catch and STD if your partner cheats on you. Seen a show on TV where someone caught an STD from her partner who she got tested with. She was shocked when she got the STD and heard her partner was cheating on her, from whom she got the STD xD
I made that mistake with my ex. So yay for 5-10 years left!!!!
But honestly im not one that takes extreme value in life as others do. I choose to live life as you want just go with the flow of things.
Both have to get tested beforehand. It's not insulting at all, and in fact I like being approached by my partner before I bring it up. It shows that she's responsible/hasthe foresight to care about our future. Not getting testing reeks of this modern "Yolo" attitude I keep seeing everywhere. It's not so much about getting tested in and of itself, but about gauging to see whether or not your partner is responsible enough and willing to look past the stigma behind testing, which shouldn't even exist to begin with if we want to curb the spread of infection. Not getting tested is just plain stupid if you ask me. Most people don't even know whether or not they have an STD, so how could you possibly take their word for it?
im fairly honest about it myself, I prefer knowing for 100% certainty that someone is clean even if we're using condoms. Might sound harsh and a bit dickish but I told the last girl who I slept with that I wouldnt be touching her till she was tested because of some of the people I knew she had been with were not exactly careful. That being said, its as much about trust and i've gone past the age where I screw anything that moves so I dont mind waiting as long as its the right girl.
Other?! I'm stuck in some sort of reverse courtship rut. I just nail chicks then try to form a relationship after (unless they are ropey as fuck or don't pass well on the chili system). I always lose interest tho. It's good to get tested now and again tho, peace of mind and all that.
I've got 3 bit of advice for you anyway; if you are under the age of 30 get out of relationships and rock out. My friend Ben told me you have to sleep with 113 women before you can even think of getting married (he got married later that year, hes on some next level shit) and finally if you are worried about birth control and live in the EU, don't be. Just make sure you have an in date passport and pick from any of the EU countries to avoid parental responsibilities and chill out in.
I always find it strange when a girls like 'oh are your clean'. It's like, you're about to take my word for it the same you most likely have every other guy, are YOU clean? If I suspected I had something, then I'd have been checked out and had it fixed. If it wasn't curable I sure as hell wouldn't be just fucking every bitch without a condom making their life worse.
I've never really asked.
It's not something I've ever really worried about since I don't pick up sluts.
If you're still getting a urethra swab as a guy you should find a new doctor/clinic and avoid such archaic places, that is old technology which is no longer necessary. Nowadays it's as simple as peeing into a cup and doing blood work if you so chose.
I believe the peeing in a cup can only be done first thing in the morning(?), and most of the planned parenthood type free clinics still use the q-tip... and it sucks!
To be fair though its been quite a while since i got tested, but not long enough if the q-tip is still in play.