If You Could Date Anyone On This Forum, Who Would It Be?

[Azadina]

If not then I sure hope I cherish the rest of my life ^^

*hugss* It'll work out, I'm sure of it. Trust me! ^^

[Gemini Sunrise]

I didn't have much trouble creating my profile last Saturday, but I don't really understand how I am supposed to act. As a guy, I guess I am expected to make the first move. But I just don't know how to make it. For example, I'm reading a profile of a girl from Chicago; she seems to have pretty much the same interests as me, similar lifestyle, etc. I would feel really awkward saying something like this, "Hi, I've noticed we have a lot of similar interests. Want to chat on Skype?". Perhaps I need to get out of my head and just go for it...

Not necessarily on all of it. On the three I've done so far that the girl has talked back on, they've initiated the conversation. So I guess uh, don't expect much either way.

[Jotaux]

Not necessarily on all of it. On the three I've done so far that the girl has talked back on, they've initiated the conversation. So I guess uh, don't expect much either way.

I had one girl where we were chatting back and forth. It seemed to be going well. Then they asked "which one [ethnicity] do you identify more with? Or should I guess? " something like that. I said "Sure, take a guess!" I never heard from her again.

Then another that messaged me first but then stopped. At that point I was a bit frustrated so I asked why she decided to stop messaging me so I could figure out where I was going wrong. She said it was because I was not a sikh. I just left that alone but that annoys me because my picture is clearly on my profile, I am not wearing a turban, and my ethnicity is listed in my profile, and the fact that I am an atheist is there as well.

I also get lots of messages from people that are really into clubbing which is not for me at all. Its like they don't even read my profile or anything about me.

Everyone I have messaged first I have not gotten a response. It looks like we would be a good fit based on interests and lifestyles but I guess I am bad at starting a conversation.

[Gemini Sunrise]

I had one girl where we were chatting back and forth. It seemed to be going well. Then they asked "which one [ethnicity] do you identify more with? Or should I guess? " something like that. I said "Sure, take a guess!" I never heard from her again.

Then another that messaged me first but then stopped. At that point I was a bit frustrated so I asked why she decided to stop messaging me so I could figure out where I was going wrong. She said it was because I was not a sikh. I just left that alone but that annoys me because my picture is clearly on my profile, I am not wearing a turban, and my ethnicity is listed in my profile, and the fact that I am an atheist is there as well.

I also get lots of messages from people that are really into clubbing which is not for me at all. Its like they don't even read my profile or anything about me.

Everyone I have messaged first I have not gotten a response. It looks like we would be a good fit based on interests and lifestyles but I guess I am bad at starting a conversation.

Yeah, you have those as well. Only good thing you can get out of it is that at the very least, you don't have to find that stuff out like, 3 months down the line. And me being bad at conversation is probably why I don't mind them starting it

[Deleted]

I had one girl where we were chatting back and forth. It seemed to be going well. Then they asked "which one [ethnicity] do you identify more with? Or should I guess? " something like that. I said "Sure, take a guess!" I never heard from her again.

Then another that messaged me first but then stopped. At that point I was a bit frustrated so I asked why she decided to stop messaging me so I could figure out where I was going wrong. She said it was because I was not a sikh. I just left that alone but that annoys me because my picture is clearly on my profile, I am not wearing a turban, and my ethnicity is listed in my profile, and the fact that I am an atheist is there as well.

I also get lots of messages from people that are really into clubbing which is not for me at all. Its like they don't even read my profile or anything about me.

Everyone I have messaged first I have not gotten a response. It looks like we would be a good fit based on interests and lifestyles but I guess I am bad at starting a conversation.

This seems so odd...why look on a dating site for people into clubbing? Arent you better off meeting them....in a club? :P

[Gemini Sunrise]

This seems so odd...why look on a dating site for people into clubbing? Arent you better off meeting them....in a club? :P

I mean, it is sorta awkward sometimes to like, ask one girl out of their groups of 4-8 for a dance (least speaking from a swing dancing view- I assume clubbing is similar). They might be trying to set up beforehand.

[Cerilis]

This seems so odd...why look on a dating site for people into clubbing? Arent you better off meeting them....in a club? :P

You are right! That doesn't make any sense at all! Damn conspiracies!

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I mean, it is sorta awkward sometimes to like, ask one girl out of their groups of 4-8 for a dance (least speaking from a swing dancing view- I assume clubbing is similar). They might be trying to set up beforehand.

Or maybe it does! Still! Conspiracies!

[Deleted]

I mean, it is sorta awkward sometimes to like, ask one girl out of their groups of 4-8 for a dance (least speaking from a swing dancing view- I assume clubbing is similar). They might be trying to set up beforehand.

Well asking people for something is generally nervy and akward. But maybe I have this wrong idea that clubbing people tend to be a bit more confident in general

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You are right! That doesn't make any sense at all! Damn conspiracies!

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Or maybe it does! Still! Conspiracies!

Told you, its all one big juicy conspiracy!

[May90]

Not necessarily on all of it. On the three I've done so far that the girl has talked back on, they've initiated the conversation. So I guess uh, don't expect much either way.

I just always have this dilemma. On one hand, I want to be the initiator, because, well, it's logical to be the initiator when you are interested in someone. On the other, I don't want to come across as pushy. Granted, I've already received a few messages from people interested in chatting/meeting, but they all seemed cheesy and random, like "Hi, I'm new in this town. Here is my phone number, let's chat". While their profiles didn't suggest much in common with me. So far I've politely declined all such "offers". One girl literally suggested meeting in a cafe nearby in her first message. I guess, indeed, most people don't bother reading profiles...

[Tennis]

I didn't have much trouble creating my profile last Saturday, but I don't really understand how I am supposed to act. As a guy, I guess I am expected to make the first move. But I just don't know how to make it. For example, I'm reading a profile of a girl from Chicago; she seems to have pretty much the same interests as me, similar lifestyle, etc. I would feel really awkward saying something like this, "Hi, I've noticed we have a lot of similar interests. Want to chat on Skype?". Perhaps I need to get out of my head and just go for it...

Why don't you let her make the first move.
As we say here in Canada, it's 2016.

[Gemini Sunrise]

Well asking people for something is generally nervy and akward. But maybe I have this wrong idea that clubbing people tend to be a bit more confident in general

Like, the only problem is that they travel in small packs. If it was just one girl, I'd be asking her immediately. As is though, they usually have a small group of friends.

I just always have this dilemma. On one hand, I want to be the initiator, because, well, it's logical to be the initiator when you are interested in someone. On the other, I don't want to come across as pushy. Granted, I've already received a few messages from people interested in chatting/meeting, but they all seemed cheesy and random, like "Hi, I'm new in this town. Here is my phone number, let's chat". While their profiles didn't suggest much in common with me. So far I've politely declined all such "offers". One girl literally suggested meeting in a cafe nearby in her first message. I guess, indeed, most people don't bother reading profiles...

Yeah, all I'm saying is like, don't be too set in things running either way.

[Jotaux]

I just always have this dilemma. On one hand, I want to be the initiator, because, well, it's logical to be the initiator when you are interested in someone. On the other, I don't want to come across as pushy. Granted, I've already received a few messages from people interested in chatting/meeting, but they all seemed cheesy and random, like "Hi, I'm new in this town. Here is my phone number, let's chat". While their profiles didn't suggest much in common with me. So far I've politely declined all such "offers". One girl literally suggested meeting in a cafe nearby in her first message. I guess, indeed, most people don't bother reading profiles...

I would prefer just meeting face to face. I'm way better with people one on one than online or through text.

[Tennis]

I would prefer just meeting face to face. I'm way better with people one on one than online or through text.

Try meeting some folks at the next Vancouver riot. Could be a good way to network.

[May90]

Why don't you let her make the first move.
As we say here in Canada, it's 2016.

Well, you don't need to tell me that, I am always the first one on these forums calling people out on impractical traditionalism. But the way I see it, if two people are interested in each other and each expects the other to make the first move, they will never talk. I don't mind to be the first one to start a conversation, I just sometimes don't know how to start it. In real life it is easy: you just say, "Hi", and it goes from there. Online, if I just say to someone, "Hi, how is it going", what are the odds that I will hear back from them?

[Jotaux]

Try meeting some folks at the next Vancouver riot. Could be a good way to network.

I said one on one, there tends to be a mob mentality in riots.

[Tennis]

I said one on one, there tends to be a mob mentality in riots.

Oh, apologies.
Hit up a yoga class. Preferably a small one so you can scout around before making your move.

[Nanaboostme]

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[Deleted]

Why don't you let her make the first move.
As we say here in Canada, it's 2016.

Its like saying "Its 2016, there shouldnt be poverty!"

If heterosexual dating wasn't enough indication just look at how different homosexual male and female dating are

[Gereorth666]

I have no knowledge about who are on these forums. Would be a bit hard to give a judge on who I would date, haha. But I've seen some cute people around.

[Zulkhan]

Okay, how the fuck is this retarded thread still going?

Your post helped.