Sloots been sloots.
And if the dude makes a move, omg sexual harassment / rape!
Sloots been sloots.
And if the dude makes a move, omg sexual harassment / rape!
I continued on to explain. Something like this doesn't require much explaining. I like to do something different than you. That's really all there is to it.
I don't worry about losing a few dollars on a bad date, you do. I enjoy a simple first date where somebody else takes care of pleasing my sense of taste while I focus on the person across from me. I get compliments for what I do and thanked for not being like the majority of guys. It works for me.
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Yea, except I did, with more than enough reason to justify liking a restaurant. Pretty sure nobody wants a formal essay on why I enjoy taking somebody out to a restaurant. A sentence or two is plenty.
and then he cupped my balls...
NO, you are wrong, and NOBODY shares your view. Rape is not a result of a financial slight. It is the result of a dangerous and violent criminal, who likes to dominate women. By your logic, good and decent men just rape their dates left and right, over being stuck with the tab. This is not an actual thing.
Might want to think before you open your mouth. But seeing as you've been banned, someone else has already offered that suggestion.
Its not like the 99% are sticking it to the 1% by scamming people. They're scamming the other 99%, the other 99% who somehow have enough to pay for themselves and another human being. Which begs the question what the fuck are you doing that you can't do the same.
Are you admitting that only the males of the 99% are capable of supporting household? Why bother educating females, and fighting for equality if at the end all you do is mooch off the stronger sex. Obviously this is all very tongue in cheek. But for you to make some bullshit statement about capitalism instead of addressing the real issue that people (male and female) are shitty... is probably why you've been given a timeout. Enjoy it, it was needed.
Whats up with the stigma / fear of eating alone? Fuck i love eating by myself, im usually starving by then.
No time wasting with chit chat, just my food and my phone / tablet to read stuff.
I want to eat in peace and relax.
Yes, sure. Issue here is that I don't think it's viable to encompass the entire context of my arguments in every post, but this was an answer to women wanting stronger men who can protect them because Savannah, thus the best course of action for anyone who doesn't want to need to pay for dinner on a date is to go to the gym. In this context, personality was the counter point to looks (in particular muscly look), and Savannah doesn't care about personalities. So women wanting good personality shouldn't exist because it's a trait not encompassed with the reptilian brain thing which mandates finding a partner who will help the offspring succeed against predators.
Yeah, rapists love that mentality.
For a while there I thought you were defending respecting women, but I guess I took it all wrong.
Ok. I enjoy a lot of things, too. I enjoy watching a movie at a cinema. But that doesn't make it a good first date. You barely get to talk to one another, you sit in the dark, no way to really escalate things verbally. Terrible choice for a date, even though I enjoy watching a movie. Now a restaurant is an equally bad choice. You sit across from each other, it's hard to get physical, you watch each other stuff food in your mouths, it puts you in the provider box etc. Even though I enjoy food as much as I enjoy watching a film, this is stuff I do with friends. Not on dates. Nobody says you can't do stuff you like, it just doesn't make it a good date.
And talking in a bar or a cafe is not enjoyable? It's totally different, right.
Of course you're not getting turned down for more dates. You've just established yourself as a provider. They're gonna get more free meals out of you. The real question is how many times have you had sex on a first date?
What is "playing it safe" about going to a bar or a coffee shop? You have way better opportunities to escalate things verbally or physically. You can get touchy a lot faster and go for the kiss a lot sooner. Last time I was with a girl at a bar, I went for the first kiss within minutes and she reciprocated. How often have you kissed a girl within minutes of sitting down at a dinner table with her? Sounds like dinner is much more playing it safe and taking things slow, then going to a bar where you can sit next to each other, hold hands, embrace and kiss. I think you are playing it safe. I'm certainly not. I'm going all in.
Never listen to a girl's words, always listen to her actions. Again, ask yourself, how soon did you get how intimate with these girls and then ask yourself how fast things would've gone at a different venue like a bar. If they say they usually go into these dates with their guard up and they don't when you're going to a restaurant with them, that is not a good thing. If they feel too comfortable around you that means you've built too much rapport. If they are not on their guard with you, then that means they don't expect you to go for it. They think you are safe. Safe is boring. Safe is friendzone. So be honest, how many of the girls you went on a date with did you end up fucking. Truth here, please.
Why wouldn't both of you be happy in a bar or a cafe? It's literally the same thing, just with less food options, cheaper and with better seating.
No, you're not my father because my father is my father. Why would my father even care about putting out and not talking to any dudes?
That doesn't really mean much. I could go on a holiday where I want to and it would likely be cheaper than my monthly costs here.
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That still isn't an explanation as to why, so I assume you just don't know.
I do worry about giving money to people who only want to take advantage of me. And I know that girls will put me in the providerbox if I pay for them, and expect more commitment, rather than fast, wild animal sex.
What the fuck does that even mean. You pay for dinner because you enjoy "somebody else taking care of pleasing your sense of taste". So you mean, you like for someone else to do the cooking while you talk to the girl. Well... that... still doesn't explain why you have to go out for dinner. Just eat before the date? So then you can go out and do something other than eating? Something more fun, like going to a karaoke bar? I mean it's really no argument. I mean nobody suggested you do the cooking on the first date while simultaneously trying to have a conversation with a woman. "Oh my god, the only alternative is going to an expensive restaurant." Just admit that you wanna buy her affection with a nice, expensive restaurant visit. That is the only reason you would do this. People eat food every day without going to restaurants. Just eat something before the date, and tell your girl to meet you at a bar for drinks. Don't tell me you can have better conversations in a restaurant than in a bar. If anything, it's worse, cause you're constantly eating, have food in your mouth, stuck between your teeth, etc. Drinks are much more casual.
Yeah you're not like the majority of guys. The majority of guys don't pay for her meals and instead get quick sex from her for not being a provider. You are different. You are like her girlfriend. She feels safe around you. And you pay for everything! Well done, boy!
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Interesting and charming are not part of someone's personality? I think you need to... read some books or something. Because that was nonsensical.
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That's why you don't spend 150$ on a girl.
The idea he was trying to present is that by cutting costs on women he has more money left in his pocket. This being said I think we all know the men is "supposed" to pay for stuff if he's with a women. Where each draws the line and considers it a good deal, depends. And in very very few relationships is the other way arround, at least in this day and age.
for me its rude to let a woman spend money in the meal
but maybe because our culture don't have much dating only marriage and a man should always be responsible for his family
Eating food for many people is like a ritual. Ever since I started losing weight, I have really started to see food as something different. Instead of a source of pleasure I see it more like fuel. I wouldn't even be able to eat anything in the evening right now. I do intermittent fasting and eat all my meals in 4 hours, today it was from 12:30 to 16:30. If someone wanted to go to dinner with me, I would most likely order nothing, like I did recently when I went to a chinese restaurant with 2 girls. I just don't get some people's eating habits anymore.
Ex so disliked this as well, I just order drinks at night, water/coffee and maybe one soft drink. She took it presonal, like I was either cheap or didn't wanna eat with her. Yet when I take off the shirt she recognized that lifting and healty eating worked on me.
Someone who leads =/= rapist
By lead I mean telling a girl "let's meet for drinks at 8" or taking a girl's hand, standing up and saying "let's go". Don't ask a girl if she wants to meet for drinks. Don't ask a girl if she wants to change locations. Don't ask a girl if she wants to come home with you. Just stand up and start walking. If she asks where you are going, say "on an adventure" or "I live near here, let's watch the movie we talked about earlier". None of this is rape. But as it comes to sex, it is important you lead there too. Don't ask a girl if you can kiss her. Don't ask a girl if you can touch her breasts. Don't ask a girl if you can enter her vagina. Just do it. She will tell you when she doesn't want it. Then you can pull back. But if you ask for permission, you will not get anything.
So basically you're going on and on that you want to fuck as many girls as you can for as little money. Got it.
Since all you want to know is, how fast have things gone for me. No, I don't kiss girls within a couple minutes. I'm not a creep/rapist. They hopefully aren't whores.
I also never invite them over or ask to go over on a first date, so no, after the first date I'm not sleeping with them. I can wait a few days or weeks, I have self control.
As for how many? I've turned two girls down after the first date, all others continued on and I slept with them. Since that somehow matters so much towards the fact that I take people out to dinner.
I actually will continue to listen to what a woman has to say and will gladly not listen to your poor advice. I enjoy dating people and their company. I'm not trying to be a rapey overgrown frat boy who can't put his life together.
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Also I don't need to lose weight like you. I'm in damn good shape and eat anything I like. I work out 15+ hours a week and don't have to worry about too many calories.
and then he cupped my balls...
I don't mind paying / inviting / treating my girlfriend to nice place. That's because the relationship is mutual and i want to treat her right and make her feel special, $$$ is a non issue at that point.
But pay for some random hoe in tinder? FUCK NO.