What's wrong with me?

[Yami]

Nothing is wrong with you. As everyone said don't pay attention to other's people happiness pay attention to yours. It is your life you are living not theirs. If you want to be in a relationship try looking for a girl in places that you might have a interest in if you like working out try finding a workout partner at the gym. There really is no need to rush into a relationship unless you feel like you are ready for one or want one. Better to live a short life doing what you love doing versus living a long life doing something you find miserable. Live your life as you see fit. I wouldn't act like a douche but I wouldn't let everyone walk over you either. It's better to be somewhere in the middle caring and nice but also assertive.

[aviger]

I've recently been looking through my Facebook and have noticed that loads of my friends have been getting into relationships and it has been playing on my mind a bit, I'm the only one of my friends that haven't had a serious relationship at the age of 23.
I've been trying to think what what my flaws are but i don't see anything major that would put girls off...
I'm 5ft 10" dark hair, brown eyes and a strong build. I'm not a shy person at all, I'm talkative and considered the "joker" among my friends.
I do admit i spend alot of time gaming but i still have a decent social life.

What do you guys think?

you are 23!!!! there is absolutely no reason you "should have" a serious relationship :P
I didn't meet my wife (happily married still after 3 years, together for 6 total) until i was 30 (she was 28).
People are to focussed on what they should have... you should have what you have.
Either date more and just have fun or don't force it.
I didn't and i ended up meeting my wife 6000 miles from my "comfort zone" (i'm from europe, she's american) completely unexpected.
And most people i know who got married earlier (20-25) due to feeling they had to get serious are now either divorced or miserable .
Don't rush, enjoy life

[Violent]

you are 23!!!! there is absolutely no reason you "should have" a serious relationship :P
I didn't meet my wife (happily married still after 3 years, together for 6 total) until i was 30 (she was 28).
People are to focussed on what they should have... you should have what you have.
Either date more and just have fun or don't force it.
I didn't and i ended up meeting my wife 6000 miles from my "comfort zone" (i'm from europe, she's american) completely unexpected.
And most people i know who got married earlier (20-25) due to feeling they had to get serious are now either divorced or miserable .
Don't rush, enjoy life

I can concur with that all day long.. I've known and known of, many couples who got together early. Thought they had everything ALL figured out. Start having kids, (probably with-in the first few times of having sex), this & that, all before marrying or growing up themselves, or hell even before reaching the age of 21. Now they're screwed. 2 or 3+ kids, dead-end job, single or in between partners, and have NO idea what they're doing in their lives. It's a sad and LONELY path that is disguised as a fun, sexy time all the time, party. Don't fall into that trap.


There was once this girl I liked in high school.. Of course, she didn't like me. She led me on a bit.. Just to fuck with me I guess. last I heard of her.. She's got 3 kids by 3 different guys, with a new guy almost every week, is a stripper, lives in one of the worst areas of my city. Oh, and did I mention? She was in prison for like 3 years because the idiot of a guy she got with a little while after me, got caught breaking into places & stealing shit and she was with him. None of which would have happened, had she actually got & stayed with me.

So now everytime I see her, or hear about it I just laugh.. Like, "Ha-ha Bitch! Serves you right for trying to live too fast, I could have saved you."

Moral of the story? Take it sloooooow. It'll find you when you're ready.

[OzoAndIndi]

Talkative, but how easily do you let people in?

Me, I'm 30s, not overly social, an introvert, bit of a loner, and I realize I'm not easy to get to know. Slow to let people in. You're rather young still yet, if there actually is some kind of obstacle there (and maybe there isn't) it may still be a bit invisible to you. Could take some self introspection, or simply a little more age, to pinpoint it.

[Orcbert]

I suppose, but i do go out most weekends.
Perhaps i should turn into a douchebag, girls seem to like that for some reason...

And here's your problem. The kind of people who go with this attitude tend to give off an asshole vibe that puts girls off.

This is the real world, not a movie. If you go out there and act like a douchebag you will not find a girl to go out with you. What you need to do is be pleasant and kind. Try to be yourself.

Most importantly you are lumping all girls into one category. Stop it and you'll be more succesful.

[Kraenen]

the same people who are getting married or in relationships at this age (20-25) are either not gonna last or gonna be turmoil for the rest of their lives

[goojy]

idk if you fap/watch porn but this actually can be a problem for many young men in interacting with women. there are some websites that have more information on it, but this was something i had problems with. after i went 4-5 months without fap/porn i honestly felt much better and could more easily interact with women. and when i say "interact" with women i mean it helped me look at women in a different perspective... you eventually actually want to get to know the girl instead of viewing her as something for your pleasure. it sounds bad like that but its true. you look at women with a completely different mind set.

google search "your brain on porn" and "your brain rebalanced" for 2 sites that helps me. also reddit has a no fap page.


idk if this is the route of your problem but it may help... give it a try, it helped me out immensely.

[Orcbert]

the same people who are getting married or in relationships at this age (20-25) are either not gonna last or gonna be turmoil for the rest of their lives

Odds aren't great in marriage but it can and does work for some people. A relationship of any kind, no matter when it starts in your life will have it's fair share of turmoil.

You can be in a relationship and end it later. You can even make a sort of deeper commitment then dating and fun at a young age without long term plans. In fact, 20-25 is a great time to start your first committed relationship. There is never a situation that you are stuck in for any reason. However, if you go by your attitude you may miss something good. You don't need to force something to happen but don't let something good get away because you assume it's going to fail.

[Shudder]

I suppose, but i do go out most weekends.
Perhaps i should turn into a douchebag, girls seem to like that for some reason...

Annnnnnd here is your problem. You might want to take off your fedora and realize being nice doesn't mean you get sex. They don't want someone who is whiny and complains about the friend zone. The friend zone does not exist. It's called rejection. Women don't like douchebags they like confidence, I suggest you find some.

[TheBeardedOne]

Your into to body building and judge other peoples and your own life off Facebook. Sounds like your super insecure and shallow

[Deleted]

Dude, it'll happen. I hadnt had any serious relationship until the one I'm in right now. And we got together last year. I was 27 and it's been the best thing so far. Worth the wait I tell you

[yetgdhfgh]

Gotta love people who have midlife crisis's at 23

Seriously life isnt gonna fall into your lap if you want a serious relationship go out and get on if not then dont complain about it

[Airwaves]

Dude I am 24 and never had a serious relationship. Nor do I plan on starting one any time soon. Much prefer to do my own thing, When I want, When ever I want and how ever I want. People get hung up on relationships where as I don't give a flying fuck about having one.

[Dragon2K]

I'm 27 getting closer to 30. My first big relationship was at 25. I'm gay though! Ha. My boyfriend is asexual.

You will find someone, don't worry. :P

Also, I do feel like my body isn't what it used to be when I was 24 and younger. I definitely felt a shift. However, I am more intelligent and interesting than I've ever been! I'm also sure if I exercised more I'd feel better than ever! I don't though because I work all the time behind a desk doing graphics. I totally prefer guys my age and slightly older. Although, my bf is 2 years younger at the moment.

How does that work if you don't mind me asking? For both of you?


(Also, at the moment? :P you think he's likely to catch up?)

[Collegeguy]

I forget facebook even exists. There is a social life outside of facebook, and you should have one.

[Deleted]

have you tried dating outside women? i hear guys are much easier to approach

[Deleted]

I suppose, but i do go out most weekends.
Perhaps i should turn into a douchebag, girls seem to like that for some reason...

And here's your problem. The kind of people who go with this attitude tend to give off an asshole vibe that puts girls off.

This is the real world, not a movie. If you go out there and act like a douchebag you will not find a girl to go out with you. What you need to do is be pleasant and kind. Try to be yourself.

Most importantly you are lumping all girls into one category. Stop it and you'll be more succesful.

Came here to say something like that.
"Oh moany-moan, all the girls want a-holes, I'm a nice guy and they're all sl*ts who want douches", "what's wrong with meeeeee?"

1. More confidence, less moaning and stereotype judging.
2. Hide your fedora.

[Aeluron Lightsong]

Annnnnnd here is your problem. You might want to take off your fedora and realize being nice doesn't mean you get sex. They don't want someone who is whiny and complains about the friend zone. The friend zone does not exist. It's called rejection. Women don't like douchebags they like confidence, I suggest you find some.

I don't think he was implying


Being nice= Sex.

[Deleted]

Get a hair-cut. Just saying.

[Raptor With a Saber]

What is wrong with you is you're on Facebook instead of out trying to find that special someone. stalk them and hide in their closest and slowly your scent will be on everything they own/wear and then pass by them in life and look back to see if they look at you and when they do approach them and then live happy together and on their death bed tell don't tell them because the anger will make them stay alive longer just to ruin your life.


Or just try a dating site which ever sounds easier.