Making Adult Couples Sleep Separately When Visiting Family

[Themius]

So I really never have thought of this issue. I see it now and then on television and just saw this in a commercial where a mid 20s to 30 year old boyfriend was made to sleep downstairs. I did some looking around online and found forums of mothers who were very much for this.

I do not understand it one bit. In one case two people were 25 living together, but when they visited the mothers house they were to sleep separate.

[Uko]

Their house their rules. If you don't like it get a hotel.

[endersblade]

Their house their rules. If you don't like it get a hotel.

This. I see nothing wrong with it, honestly. I see nothing FOR it though, either. It's just one of those things, their house, their rules.

Back when I was engaged, and we'd come home to visit, my mom had no issues with us sleeping together, although we never had sex out of respect for the house.. "You're both grown adults, I'd imagine you sleep together when you aren't here, why would I separate you?" The response I got when I asked.

[Revi]

I get that they don't want them to have sex in their house, but I feel like that is making it even more awkward.

[Cerus]

Out of respect for the owners of their household.

[NuLogic]

That's pretty weird.

[theostrichsays]

I remember before he died my uncle was in his 40's a CSM in the Army. He came back home to see my grandma with his gf.
Grandma promptly but his arse on the couch... mommas house.... mommas rules.

[Themius]

Their house their rules. If you don't like it get a hotel.

This is the thing:

the attitude isn't their house their rules:

It's "their house their rules, you're never an adult in my eyes."

[pateuvasiliu]

Their house their rules. If you don't like it get a hotel.

And they wonder why I won't let them see their grandkids.

Silly parents.

[Jester Joe]

I did some looking around online and found forums of mothers who were very much for this.

You probably entered the largest echo chamber known to humans.

But yeah, it just seems like a weird thing overall, even weirder when it's like the parents asked for them to stay at their house. Why offer the space if you're just going to be like "Well, only if you do this!"? If you don't like the idea of them sleeping together, don't offer.

[WskyDK]

Their house, I'm a guest.
I sleep in a different place than my wife most of the time anyways (bedroom gets super hot and I can't sleep warm)

[Themius]

Out of respect for the owners of their household.

This I also don't get, when growing up when we had guest, they were guest. There weren't held to odd rules for the sake of it being our house. My attitude tends to be you take care of the people in your house, not impose on them.

[hellosaltygoodness]

Ehh when I was sixteen my mom happily let my boyfriend shack up with me in my room for four years, up until we moved out. So no experience with being forced apart, but knowing how gross I always found it as a kid when I was kicked out of my room when married relatives were staying over, I don't blame anybody for not wanting others having sex in their house and on their things.

[Themius]

You probably entered the largest echo chamber known to humans.

But yeah, it just seems like a weird thing overall, even weirder when it's like the parents asked for them to stay at their house. Why offer the space if you're just going to be like "Well, only if you do this!"? If you don't like the idea of them sleeping together, don't offer.

There were a few daughters who posted saying that they just don't visit their mother or declined the invite because they were making her sleep separate from her fiance

[WskyDK]

It's "their house their rules, you're never an adult in my eyes."

Just saw this. It's pretty sheisty if they act like that, but it's still their house.
(should have a talk with them though, seems to be something else going on)

[minteK917]

Id probably never visit my relative if this was ever forced on us. If the issue is about us having sex and it was my parents, id straight out ask them how many time did they have sex when we were kids sleeping in the same house.. probably many otherwise i wouldnt have so many brother and sisters lol.

[Viscoe]

I've never been forced to sleep separate from my boyfriend, though if I was asked to, I'd do it out of respect, but be kind of offended. Do you honestly think I'm disrespectful enough to fuck in your guest bed? That's terrible. (both the act of fucking in someone else's bed, and also that they'd think we would.) :T

[Silver Forte]

You need to understand what 'conservative' is. A lot of older people and people with religious backgrounds think having pre-marital sex is bad. Having two adults in one bed is, in their minds, setting up a situation where those two adults are able to have relations. So, separating them eliminates that. They consider certain things to be offensive and inappropriate. My girlfriend and I are soulmates, 6 and a half years. But, her parents don't appreciate how we sleep in the same bed because they are arrogant and narrowminded racist, homophobic redneck Christians. Well, light-christians. 6 day sinners, 1 day saints. They do not like homosexuals, nonwhites or premarital sex. We do it regardless, but they don't like it. It's conservative as hell but you need to also remember that if it's their house, then the people visiting have to deal with it. It might be insane and an outmoded mindset, but it's their house. Nobody is going to come into my house and tell me they're going to do something I said they can't within my walls.

[WskyDK]

Id probably never visit my relative if this was ever forced on us. If the issue is about us having sex and it was my parents, id straight out ask them how many time did they have sex when we were kids sleeping in the same house.. probably many otherwise i wouldnt have so many brother and sisters lol.

Don't ask if you're not ready for that answer :P

[Gandrake]

you worried about me fucking on the bed

what you need to be worried about is your bathroom and kitchen counter