Well theres this nice guy that pretends to be a nice guy to get sex
Theres this nice guy that is really nice, but you'll be a pushover (not attractive)
Women like small traits, like a nice smile etc, be approachable.
Well theres this nice guy that pretends to be a nice guy to get sex
Theres this nice guy that is really nice, but you'll be a pushover (not attractive)
Women like small traits, like a nice smile etc, be approachable.
I've known several good athletes who had good grades. Not straight As, but enough to get into a good uni based on grades, not athletic prowess.
The dumb jock who acts like a jerk to his gorgeous gf who then falls for the shy nerd, that's the real American highschool movie illusion. In reality the jock isn't that dumb and isn't a jerk, he's in fact a charming, cool, good looking guy which is why he has a hot girlfriend.
As the shy nerd, it took me a long while to figure that one out on my own, but the dating world made a lot more sense when I finally did.
Last edited by CthulhuFhtagn; 2017-12-24 at 11:39 AM.
What exactly should I do so someone feels like they'd want to date me.
But I am needy about this. You don't understand the crippling loneliness I have each day after work--coming home to no one but my damn computer. I am at the point where I silently resent people I see in relationships in public.
You really just made me feel worse about this whole thing...I may not be the best looking but I think I can offer valuable things if they'd let me open my heart to them
I will try reading a book about the spark. I don't really know how to form emotional connections for close friendships and relationships
I think people should do what makes them happy (as long as they are not doing things to people that harm them!), including declining dates from men they don't find attractive due to whatever reason.
And for the record, those women should be whatever size they are happy with, regardless of your concerns about their health. Not everyone enjoys using their time to keep their bodies a certain size.
Last edited by Total Crica; 2017-12-24 at 11:39 AM.
Ask out women like in the pictures I posted. They are not the most attractive, but they can offer valuable things if you'd just let them.
Seriously, if you are not willing to ask out women you don't find attractive, you are doing nothing but trolling here.
You are not entitled to a personal relationship with anyone who doesn't want one with you, just as people you don't want one with are not entitled to one with you, and you know it.
Last edited by Total Crica; 2017-12-24 at 11:47 AM.
The more you look for a date, the less chance you'll get one...
Patience and the right one will just appear when you don't expect it... You could be in a supermarket and you both reach for the same piece of fruit and magic happens...
For me, i was a postman and had a parcel for my now wife, knocked her door and asked her to sign for something, and when she accidently touched my hand, we both looked at each other and we knew... After that she always seem to be either leaving the house or walking up the street as i was delivering and in the end, she asked me out for a drink.... 15 years later still going strong... and our son just turned 14 yesterday....
You want honesty? Nothing about your post suggests that you're a 'nice guy', but rather a guy doing things that seem nice to you in order to score dates. Referring to their reasons for not being interested in you as 'excuses' says a lot more than you probably think it says. And the whole "I hold doors! I offer compliments! I have literally approached every woman in my job and asked for a date!" schtick? Are you seriously oblivious to how... creepy all of that sounds?
A couple of real life tips - first, work is NOT 'THE place' to find a relationship, in fact doing so will likely get you reprimanded or fired for harassment. Unwanted compliments are exactly that - harassment.
Second, stop being 'nice' with the expectation of a reward. Because that's what you're doing, and people can see through that, I assure you. There's nice, and then there's nice because someone is after something.
Thirdly, you probably have a reputation at your job based on your post, if you actually have approached every female asking about a date. Believe me, that kinda thing gets around - a new hire would probably be warned about you by other women. "Beware such and such, he hits on everything that breathes."
You asked what you need to do differently? Just about everything in your post needs to be handled differently.
Last edited by Mirishka; 2017-12-24 at 11:47 AM.
Appreciate your time with friends and family while they're here. Don't wait until they're gone to tell them what they mean to you.
Seems like a troll thread, but if not you need to spend less time dwelling on your rejections on the internet and go to more events where you can meet people who are actually looking to date, note- not at work, don't be that creep. Ladies can smell the desperation OP, you said you were inexperienced and trying to date coworkers is one of the laziest ideas, these people are stuck with you for a good chunk of the week, do both you and them a favour and don't create an uncomfortable work atmosphere, once again- don't be that creep.
If you are "successful" at your workplace how does ownership and management feel about you asking out the ladies at work? 100% it has been reported or mentioned amongst themselves if they turned you down, especially if you are in a senior position to them and are asking out a few of them by the sound of this story. There's also the likely chance that you aren't really a nice guy but you think you are acting as one, expecting gratitude, and other people see through it.
If you have to ask what to do to make people like you, you're already doing it wrong. You either have a likeable personality or you don't.
Judging by the stuff you write (like despising people in relationships because you can't get one) you don't have a likeable personality.
And if you're being to nice to women in order to get something out of that (sex, relationship, etc.) you're not really a nice guy, you're a creep.
Don't. Just lower your standards. And ditch that "open your heart" stuff right away. Go on Tinder dates and shit, learn to talk to and read women. It doesn't have to be pretty women either, just anyone who wan't to give you a chance. Not like you are committing to anything.
You really just made me feel worse about this whole thing...I may not be the best looking but I think I can offer valuable things if they'd let me open my heart to them
Don't try too hard, smile, look them in the eyes but don't stare, don't suck up or try to placate them. You are your own man and don't have to like everything they do. Be funny but again, don't try too hard by forcing bad jokes or puns on them. Be interested in them and ask a lot of questions. Do NOT be self deprecating unless you can pull something like that off. (You can't).
Women like bad boys, every time I scored was when I was a bit shit. The worst I did was stealing a girl from under some polite pansy moron's nose and subsequently this ended up being the best long term relationship to the day. It took several months of courting, but it was worth it.
You need to project strong will and determination, you won't get relationship out of pity. Don't overdo it, though. You don't have to be Mr. Tough Guy beyond measure, just be assertive.
If you have to ask this question, you won't get a date. The answer is simple: be you.
And you think people don't pick up on that vibe? The more desperate you get, the harder you'll repel potential dates. It's why the dog always goes to sit next to the person most afraid of it.
Whatever he said is bullshit. I'm with my gf for 13 years now and if we're going by looks alone, she's way out of my league. But the way you've been talking about things and describing things it sounds more like you're on the extremes of the spectrum; either a mailorder bride or someone to put on a pedestal. In either case, they won't be your equal.
You don't need a book. You need to turn off the lights & sirens screaming at others how desperate you are for a relationship. So basically, learn how to be you and be happy with that. Until that happens, you won't find someone to have a long-term and equal relationship with.
Of course women like nice guys. But they're not going to be interested in dating just because of your manners. You need to have something to go with that, interesting personality (to them), or a great sense of humor, or just being attractive and/or skilled in flirting. Or a completely different reason, because different people are attracted to different things.
Either way, keep trying. Make it easier for people to know what you're all about. Eventually there will be a person that finds a trait of yours or an interest/passion of yours intriguing. Or even you as a whole if she knows you already, and you're lucky. You just have to notice it, find her cute and know what makes her laugh. And then you're good to go.
Don't get stuck overcomplicating and overanalyzing things.
I can't speak for women, since their different creatures to gay men, despite what some people think. But for me personally, a guy being an asshole hasn't really been a draw. If there is more to him outside of being a bad guy, like a certain charm, intellect and demeanor that covers over the fact he's a baddie, then I can overlook that element.
but in general, I think women like a bad guy because its a 'project' to bring him around. I don't see the point tbh, because if the idea of reforming a bad guy into a good guy is the end goal, why not just go for the good guy in the first place? Seems shallow if thats the end goal and yet when he's there finding him boring and moving onto the next 'project'.
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