I mentioned I'm semi-open but generally non-heteronormative because I'm not into intercourse-based sex. I value that I can pursue activities I enjoy that my GF might not be enthusiastic about with other people. She's also more of a strict sub and I've been exploring my switchy side. She's used it before to try activities I wouldn't feel safe doing myself, such as fire play.
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At this point I'm either assuming you're a troll, or have too little exposure to BDSM and non-heteronormative relationships to understand that there's people who like doing sex things and are okay talking about how to be happy sexually with their partners.
Also, humans do not have alphas and betas, lol.
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There is no such thing as Open Relationship(for me at least). Sex buddies? Yep.
I'm arguing that the guy being a creep or not is inconsequential to why I posted the article and doesn't reflect on whether or not it's a bad article to link (though admittedly, it was the first article from somewhat reputable source that was about Tinder values, due to Tinder's more casual sex-oriented nature, since data from more traditional dating sites, which is just as skewed in favor of women, may not be perfectly applicable to casual sex) and that from the context of the discussion it's obvious due to which part of the article did I link it (the part about general trends and the like). And what hostility?
All of my wat.
Also, speaking of anthems, all this talk of studs and alphas made me think of this for some reason:
I really couldn't care less about traditional values. I would easily consider a relationship with 5 zerglings and 20 intelligent octopuses from Messier 81 galaxy at the same time, with an open room for 100 AIs!
Hah, yeah. And to each their own, I dont have much of a drive for vanilla sex but everyone is allowed to enjoy what they enjoy.
It's pretty common to be some level of open in the BDSM community, because we have play parties and such. Usually there's social areas that are like a normal party (no alcohol allowed, though) and then a dungeon area where you can do scenes with people. Many people come to a party already knowing who they are going to play with, some are in monogamous relationships. It's surprisingly chill and not like an orgy or anything lol, but lends itself to wanting to try things with more than one person.
Hmf...open relationships don't last...
Temporary things are easy.
Something that lasts however, takes work.
Yes, it is absurd. Western world is not a caliphate where select men have vast harems of women, leaving nothing for the rest. Not even multiple wives concept is really a thing. You know this right?
Now, in reality, it all evens out, despite some wanting to complain otherwise.
Both, sometimes at the same time, sometimes not.
Some groups in some places have rules for what you can and can't do at a party; the group I primarily participate in allows full on sex at parties and places very few limits on activities.
I've personally never had an orgasm while at a party but usually give my GF at least one. A lot of people don't do things that mix fluids; we're very aware of safer sex precautions and transmission rates are (perhaps surprisingly) lower than the general population.
Voyeurism is definitely part of the enjoyment for many people. Some things can be genuinely artistic and creative as well, like shibari rope bondage or fancy Florentine flogging (dual wielding with floggers). It's fun to share skills like these that are things you actually have to learn, and can learn most safely by being taught by someone.
So definitely both, varying by the people involved. Sometimes it can be art, sometimes sexual, sometimes both, haha.
Yes, I have been in several open relationships in the past. My husband and I had an open marriage for awhile before we mutually decided on children. They all worked out great.
Having a liked minded partner, lots of discussion and mutual maturity are needed for it to work though.
Nah, not my thing.
I wouldn't want to be a part of it.
It's about what you expect from a relationship. For some people, sexual intercourse is a typical, pleasurable activity. Relationship can be proven otherwise, through dedication, stability and investment. For others, it's about bonding deeper with your partner. Understanding that there is nothing that can bind two humans together than the chemicals released by your brain during passionate intercourse. There's also some people who have a little bit of both, of course.
To me, it's the purest form of bonding. Nothing else can strengthen the relationship as much as giving up everything else for a few hours and live in a dedicated cocoon with a single other individual. It's perhaps cheesy, but it's how I see it. To have an open relationship seems, in my own life, to be a betrayal of the bond you're building with your partner.
Obviously not everyone share that view and I have absolutley no issues with people in open relationships at all.
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